According to bisexual stereotyping, bi girls are easy to sleep with but difficult to trust.
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Me and my friend both like to different people we asked them out but they said no we asked them why and they went out with each other and are now married me and my friend are still single so they were are soul mates
I can understand where he is coming from, but any strong relationship is built upon trust. I am bi myself, but if my boyfriend was sharing a bed with someone like she was I would assume that he would have enough self control to behave.
The dragon age franchise actually shows bisexuality in a rather good light (Although the bisexuals in Dragon age origins are not prime examples as they can engage in a foursome at one point) in the second game there were four bisexual romances in the game, and only one charecter fit the horrid steriotype (she was also a member of the foursome above) And dragon age inquisition's bisexual characters do not hold to the stereotype at all (although only one visibly shows bisexuality without pursuing the romance)
Help me. I'm a straight guy and I have a friend that is a girl bisexual. She always wants me on her side, and sometimes I think that she likes me. Well I like her too. But she had girlfriends. I'm really confused about her. What should I do? I really feel that she wants to have sex with me. But she don't dare to make a move, me too because I'm too confused. We always hang out with each other. Please tell me what to do.
I found this video while trying to understand my fear of being with a bi girl, how do straight guys with bi girlfriends cope with knowing that they can’t satisfy their girlfriend’s bi fantasies. Personally it really scares me that she will want to experiment with other girls while we are in a relationship because I fear she will feel like she is missing out.
Okay, I know I'm pretty old, but I guess I can venture an opinion based on observations.
The best description of a bisexual I've ever come across was told to me by a bisexual woman: "it's a certain chemistry that happens, and I don't know whether it'll happen with a man or woman."
From observation, the reason bisexuals (women more often than men) are...viewed with distrust and suspicion is that their partner has to watch for interaction with both genders. It's not that the partner thinks something is inevitable, but it's prudent to watch for what *potentially* could happen. With bisexuals, this is *potentially* anyone. With straight or homosexual people, the partner only has to watch interactions with one gender for *potential* trouble signs.
Basically, I think it's probably just too much work for the partner of a bisexual to have to deal with. And, by the way, the boyfriend has a legitimate concern. You shouldn't dismiss it in such an offhand manner.
Tbh I think the most misrepresented/underrepresented LGBTQ+ identities are transgenderism, genderqueerness,and asexuality,and pansexuality. Specifically transgenderism and asexuality. At least I see some representation of bisexuals in media. I see almost no representation of asexual and very poor representation of trans people whether FTM or MTF.
I have a boyfriend so if a girl likes me people say “ oh she’s straight “ and I’m just like “ oh um about that “ I’m not fully out I have only given a couple people a few hints so people are just confused 😂 I make it so obvious tho!! Fml
I have a crush on a totally straight guy and he’s always calling me a half-lesbian or half-gay because I’m bisexual. And my lesbian friends call me greedy because I “can’t pick a side”. I like girls and I like guys what’s the big deal?
Bi women think they are entitled to cheat on men.. Admit it, I have seen it so often. They always seem to think it's OK to eat some pussy and I've even heard bi women say there man can't get in the 3 some but he can watch the carpet munching and jerl off I guess
marlon green yes like if she would just be open to 3 some then I would be happy to be with her and be a loyal boyfriend but since she wants to be greedy I can't get w that. I was very attracted to a bi girl but once she said I can only watch them and not get involved I was furious. I then asked so if I was bi can I bring a guy home and u can watch only... She said we'll no that means ur gay and I ain't w no gay men... Lolol even though I'm not gay I was shocked at the double standard that she can be gay and have affairs but the guy has to stay put and not allowed to touch any other girls,
Bono Milf Yep majority are double standard whores. I dealt with that exact situation was talking to this girl and she said the same thing about threesomes. Sadly majority of American women our bi thanks to the media and porn 😒.
Me and my boyfriend broke up because I myself am BISEXUAL! I don't understand. We broke up the day I told him. Which was YESTERDAY. I am starting to think maybe I shouldn't have. But then again.. he wasn't really that into me. Well, at least it didn't seem like it.
My best friend’s boyfriend told her that we weren’t allowed to sleep in her bed because she is bi (I am too but wasn’t open and out about it at that time). We have been best friends forever and she’s like a sister to me- I’m not sexually attracted to her at all! That has never been a second thought to either of us. Since I found out he said that I’m all super paranoid every time he’s around that he will assume we are flirting or “too close” instead of just bantering and acting like BFFs. I agree with the media issue. Bi individuals are treated as going through a phase or as creepy and fickle. I adore Callie Torres on Grey’s Anatomy- they got that right so major props!
This is great and a good way to explain sexuality in general. Identifying with a sexuality does not make the person. Also, sharing a bed with a person's friend, regardless of their sexuality, should be discussed if it makes someone uncomfortable. But, just because a bisexual has a gay bestfriend it doesn't mean they don't value monogamy.
Yes. Trust your girlfriend. Being attracted to multiple genders doesn't mean that she is attracted to everyone. It also doesn't mean she's going to stop loving you if she does see someone else who is attractive. Do you cheat when you see another attractive woman walk by? Probably not. So the same is more than likely true of her.
I once dated a bi girl. People used to ask me if I am bi. Joking around I would say oh yeah, but I'm not. I was being facetious which is something that I am frequently known to do. I guess I understand how it can happen for a girl, but the sight of another dude just makes the ole monkey shrivel up like a dried up prune. I could NEVER get an E-RECT from looking at a male. In fact, the nude male makes me think of a vat of vomit. LOL. I really don't know how some people do it. But I will be facetious at times because I have a huge sense of humor. Much like the ole E-RECT TILE DYSFUNCTION act. It is works great in repelling the not so attractive type if you know what I mean, but the truth is that I have no issues like that and never really did. LOL. If I am trying to get rid of stalker, I have dysfunction, but if a hot looking female comes on to me, well...LOL. I'm a relaxed guy. No hate baby!
As a bisexual women, I hate being classified as a “hyper-sexual person” because I’m not. I do not want to sleep with everyone. I have standards and types. Whether I’m sharing a bed with a guy or girl it doesn’t matter. Just because I’m attracted to both genders, doesn’t mean I’m attracted to that person.
Why can't you be one or the other??? Whys it got to be both, like your only dating one person.......I assume, right??? Like I respect Bi, but in a relationship, you either with a guy or a girl, if you're not in a relationship then you're considered Bi, thats just the way I see it, this happened to me before, saying your Bi while you are in a relationship, idk how I feel about that, there is a level of trust, loyalty and anxiety being played here when you state you are Bi in a relationship. Anyways I fully respect Bi I mean no harm or fowl and if there was, I'm sorry, I simply just don't understand why is all, thanks for reading.
It's about attraction not relationship status. Just like how a straight person's attraction to the opposite gender never changes or a gay person's attraction to the same gender never changes a bisexual person will always like more than one gender. It wouldn't make them inherently disloyal. Like a straight person in a relationship wouldn't stop being loyal while happening to find someone attractive. They just wouldn't act on it.
And it's okay. I'm glad you're just trying to learn. :)
This is why I'll never date a bisexual woman. Her level of sexual compatibility extends to both men and women. With a straight man or straight female, you wouldn't have to worry much about anything sexual happening between them if they slept in a bed with one of their friends of the same sex. With a bisexual however, since they're sexually aroused by both sexes, spending months on end with either a male/female friend is problematic. It's the same as letting your straight boyfriend sleep in bed with his female best friend for months on end, or letting your straight girlfriend do the same with her male best friend. I'm sorry, but bisexuality is just too much for me and any other sensible male out there.
Thank you so much for this clip, Cristen! I have a dear, straight female friend, married recently to a straight cis male who is going overseas to Poland and Russia for six months with a fellow PhD candidate to work on their (individual, but related) theses on the evolution of the baroque violin actually occurring in Poland (not Italy, as popularly conceived, a whole other story). This fellow candidate is cis female bisexual, extremely attractive by mainstream standards, models part time, has known my husband since childhood, and they both arrest to having a long-standing platonic friendship. In fact, their mothers got acquainted in adjacent beds at maternity hospital. He says she is like a sister to him, and when pressed, the thought of a physical encounter with her is repulsive. My friend does not believe a word of it. Her husband and his co-candidate will be sharing a two bunk bed postgraduate dorm room in Poland to save money (but their own bunk) and the same in Russia, but for personal security reasons they claim, as she attracts a lot of unwanted male attention, even back here. My friend the wife is being devoured with jealousy, and says it is not her husband's job to be live-in bodyguard for his model friend. As the situation is analogous to Caitlin's story. I have referred my friend to your channel, and advised her not to stereotype her husband's bisexual co-candidate, and anyway, they will only share a room, not a bed.
This is a topic that sits right at my door. My wife and I got married about a year and a half ago, and unbeknown to me she had a lover from quite some years back. Well, they conspired to let me know this in the best possible way. I was shocked at first and I was afraid to perhaps lose my wife. The girlfriend then moved in about six months after my wife and I got married. To cut a longe story out, I learned to slide into this relationship sexually. To get to the point that I want to say in respect of this video is that they literally pulled the mat out of under my feet with the next suggestion. First of all, I have never been with a man nor have I been attracted to a man, only perhaps when I wished I could have a body and be as handsome like a lot of dudes are. They suggested that I get involved in our already "out of the ordinary" sexual life, which I am now used to. I am now really fighting with this idea, as I will most probably have to get a gay dude to blow me off first and then I do not know, fuck.
I'm a bisexual girl (well bi-romantic and homosexual, but bisexual for simplicity) who shared a room with 3 straight girls for a year. One of them knew I was bi and didn't feel threatened by my sexuality at all. I never discussed my sexuality with the other 2. I was also in a long-term romantic relationship with an asexual heteroromantic guy. We never kissed, and we never had sex. We were a public couple; everyone knew we were dating: we would go on dates, go to each other's houses, hang out with the other's family and friends, cook food for each other, have hours long phone conversations when we were apart, hug each other, and hold hands. There was no tension because neither of us had sexual expectations for the other. We were dating, we were best friends, we loved each other, and we were monogamous with each other. This is what bisexuality can look like in real life. It's not scary. It's not risky.
To everyone around us, we looked like a typical straight couple, but both of us are on the LGBTQIA spectrum whether we realized it at the time or not.
When some random boys found out I was bi, they started to call me lesbian, I kept telling them that's not what I was/am, but they kept calling me that. This sucks being a child, with that sexuality, I'm just glad they kinda forgot about it...
and you wonder why bi women are always are the victim of domestic abuse . got yourself a man stay away from women and the same goes for the bi guys, If you want to keep your old lady stop talking about men
It’s a trust issue. I’m straight and I would feel uncomfortable with my partner sleeping in the same bed on a long term basis with another male that’s a friend. Does this mean I think she’s a attracted to all men? No. I would just feel threatened if the possibility of romance starting especially with us being apart and them close. We would have to have a conversation and I’d have to be reassured that she’s not attracted to that guy before I’d be comfortable with it. I’d say it’d be the same with her being bi-sexual - I think (at least it would be for me) that he’s more threatened by the distance they’d be experiencing versus the closeness they’d be experiencing. It’s the same as if it were a strait couple and the partner was sleeping in the same bed of the opposite sex; it will take a lot of trust.
My ex come out to me as bi curious and it makes me uncomfortable but I don’t have problems with gay or bi people but maybe it’s because I still have feelings for her idk but it makes me feel weird. Is this a bad thing?
I feel like generally, if you like the gender your going to be sharing a _bed with._
Like, imagine you were straight, and you went to study abroad, and sleep in THE SAME BED with a guy! That's not bisexual eraser, that's just generally something any partner would be worried about.
If it makes him uncomfortable he has right, if my partner were sleeping in the same bed of the someone who is attracted to there gender and they were attracted to there gender.
I really do not think it's bisexual eraser, it's just a nervous boyfriend, who loves you alot, and is worried about you.
I'd like to tell you I'm absolutely as bi as it can get, and I feel like your the one in the wrong here, even if he being a bit too defensive that's not really an excuse to pull the biphobia card.
The guy has all the right to be concerned if his bi gf is gonna share the same room with a lesbian, especially out of the state. I have had people tell me about their partners sleeping over with their bff and end up having sex together.
I think you bisexual people are simply on a much more higher level of consciousness than us, str8s. Your love is gender irrelevant while i only fall in love with women. I feel spiritually limited,but cant change it.
As a 13 year old bisexual girl,it upsets me that people think of us as greedy and will cheat on them...I want to live in a world where I can be equal and actually be able to date who I want without being taken the piss out of, I just watched a video-is it ok to date a bisexual person? and they said so long as they didn't cheat on you...but what about straight people doesn't the same go to them...why do people think this of us? I've already been beaten up by a girl and a boy because of my sexuality and I didn't talk to anybody for a week, I felt insecure and alone, but my friends are very supportive of me and most of them are part of LGBTQ to, I am eternally grateful to have them 😊❤ x
I'm a bisexual male. I came out to my now fiancé but we haven't really talked about it all that much since I came out. Aside from when I had to reassure her that I'm not actually gay and that I'm not leaving her for a man. We did talk about it later and I told her that when she thought that I was leaving her or that I'm gay ; that it hurt. She was plenty perceptive and apologized. I just can't shake the feeling that she doesn't quite approve though.
I'm pansexual. So close enough 😂 most relationships I've had males are uncomfortable and most females won't date me.
Men think.. all I want is either threesomes or I'm cheating on them. 😂 I've been told I'm not allowed to hang out with girl FRIENDS alone Bc I'm probably going to cheat. WHAT?!?
I've had some women say they can't date me either Bc they think I can't make up my mind, I'll cheat on them, or eventually I'll want to have kids and leave them for a man.
Just wanna say a couple of things, which is basically what you said. Just Bc I'm pansexual/bisexual, it does not mean I'm going to cheat on you, it does not mean I haven't made up my mind, it does not mean that I want threesomes, it does not mean I'll eventually leave you for a male.
I'm so sick of the stereotypes for bisexual and pansexual women.
Thank you, rant over 😂
my ex-boyfriend was out of aaaall the people I came out to, tho only one who acted like a complete jerk. He told me like at least once a week "I'm still not cool with you being bisexual" and even tho I didn't had even one lgbt friend at all at that time, he was jealous about everything. And he became the biggest controllfreak I couldn't breath anymore, so I left. Any even now He acts like a stalker and I try to avoid him as good as possible
As a female queer person I like both boys and girls I was always wandering if there are any male bisexuals in the comments. I mean how come we think that a bisexual is a label mostly for girls? That's stupid to say the least... And the truth is i would really like to meet a bisexual guy....
Well, this actually reminds me of my ex (we had been together for 4 years, and never had any problems). We were kind of in the same situation, except i was going to one city, she was going to another with her lesbian friend, and i was going with my straight male friend. She wouldn't allow me to even sleep in the same room as him even though we were both straight guys and he also had a girlfriend, and it would be way cheaper, so i had to rent another hotel room for a week. We had talked it through many times, and i said i trusted she wouldn't sleep with her friend, and she promised she wouldn't, because she weren't attracted to her. 4 days later, her friend made a move, and they hooked up, called me the next morning, and the first thing she says is, and i quote "we need to talk... actually, lets do this quick, im breaking up with you".
It just sounds to me like this boyfriend is super uncomfortable in his own skin and can't handle his girlfriend possibly being around anyone that she could "potentially" want to have sex with. Does he also stop her from hanging out with straight male coworkers? Does he stop himself from hanging around straight women in his own life? If the only people who he is having issues with are his girlfriends lesbian/bi friends, then it's probably safe to assume that this man needs to work through his own queerphobia. And no, this isn't to say that he's wrong for being worried about the bed thing, I could understand that. But when he brings up his girlfriends lesbian friend constantly, and seems to be uncomfortable with his girlfriend so much as /hanging out/ with her (as implied in the message), there's a problem. If the boyfriend comes to the realization that he too is bi, will he kick every queer friend out of his life for the sake of maintaining a double standard? I'm guessing no.
If my boyfriend were going abroad with his best friend who is gay and they were sharing a bed I wouldnt be thrilled either. Bitch you think your situation doesnt at least sound a little suspicious? Lol. If you cant afford the trip dont go. If you want to risk your relationship to save money, do it.
I'm afraid to come out as bisexual to my 3 close friends because my best friend came out as bisexual to our other friend and I, and they all have said in the past that they think I make my decisions based on what my one friend is doing (coincidentally quit the same sport, etc.) it honestly gets me really depressed when I think that my friend will only assume I'm coming out to her for attention or to be like her, which is NEVER the case. Why can't they see that I'm my own person??!
I am finding how fortunate I am to have a boyfriend who has never questioned my sexuality or my loyalty. The more videos I watch on this subject, the more I realize that I have really taken this for granted.
I'm a lesbian. I used to say bi because male anime characters and Andy Beirsack, but you know... Anime characters aren't real and Andy Beirsack is married and has thousands of girls who would do anything to be in the same room as him. So yeah, I'm gay.
I've experienced in past relationships what Caitlyn described, the difference with me is that I ended two of them because of how close-minded the people were about bisexuality. As of now I'm dating a bi guy which brings on a lot more criticism from others then it does between us, people assume since we are both bi we both cheat/engage in group sex together and/or separate. They tend to try and lecture me on my own sexuality and relationship and even will try and turn me and my boyfriend against each other by putting lies of infidelity in our heads when in all actuality we are both serial monogamous.