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Autism: A Quick Trip To My Home Planet | Monique Botha | TEDxSurreyUniversity

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In her heart-warming talk, Monique will speak about the alienation and isolation experienced by individuals with autism and the stereotypes that plague the diagnosis. Having autism herself, she wants to raise awareness of the challenges faced by individuals who are on the autism spectrum. Monique challenges society’s perception of autism and urges a change in the way society interacts with autism as a whole. Monique is a postgraduate student in the University of Surrey Psychology department who has worked with children with autism for a number of years as a Social Care worker. Having autism herself, it has given her an interesting perception on what autism is with regards to communities both locally and internationally. Now studying psychology, her dissertation focuses on the stress of being of being different faced by individuals on the autism spectrum and how it affects their lives. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
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AaAaAaAaAaA (1 day ago)
light overcomes_ (3 days ago)
This is crazy. I've known some people with Autism but didn't know most of this. The suicidal thoughts statistic hits home because I saw how badly people treated those I knew. People are so cruel. I'm so sorry things are this way for people.
Melissa Loos (3 days ago)
Thank you for speeking up!
toystorylover52 (3 days ago)
Love this video! I agree with you! No one can define autism by just looking at someone! That's like looking at someone and saying hey don't you have a mental illness! Autism is not even a mental illness! It is a development disorder that has nothing to do with being mentally ill! And those statistics are scary! We need more acceptance in the autism community! Some people don't want to be cured! They love who they are and they wouldn't want to change who they are! Well thanks for sharing your story! May God continue to bless you in life!
Aleksandra Bešker (3 days ago)
I cryed listening to this... I am in my thirties and didn't know until month ago why I was so lost ever since kindergarten...
forsmanos (4 days ago)
As an autistic man, where are all these foxy autistic ladies at then?
Grammà Jean (5 days ago)
I have an autistic grandson. He's 25 now. He works where his dad does and does the same thing which allows him to excel at the job.. It has taken him a long time to reach his current level. He will not learn to drive and never learned to ride a bike. It's not comfortable for him. He does have one friend who comes to visit, hang out, sleepover. Rarely does my grandson go to the others home. He has really grown since getting a job and is becoming a pleasant person to be around. He did graduate high school. Though he had a helper who made sure he understood classwork. Sometimes the way he was treated angered him. I'm proud of what he has accomplished.
Kristina R. (6 days ago)
She honestly is trying to tell that there would be people within the a spectrum who are not suffering from depression and anxiety? HOW? What do these people do to not get clinical depressed sooner or later or anxious? I mean do they have access to Marihuana from the start? Or how is it possible? Further more where did she get the graph from.?
Alison Cleeton (8 days ago)
Brave lady xxx
Pish Hinton (8 days ago)
Can we call it _____difference (as in social or learning) as opposed to “disability”?...we are all different - whose to say what is disability?...I personally believe the positives of Aspergers outweigh the negatives and that we are truly the future of humanity - for the better!...
SweetStrawberryShell (9 days ago)
"We don't want to be cured" Speak for yourself.
Angela Doolan (10 days ago)
I love my son! I wouldn't have him any other way. He's shown me his world, and it opened my eyes. We don't have different worlds. This is his world, and we're all just characters in it.
corn flaek (11 days ago)
*_softly and sadly_* oh worm
Andy Smith (14 days ago)
She didn’t draw breath and Her jokes were funny but no one laughed,I know that feeling,
Conner Fields (16 days ago)
I'm actually the same way with aggressive people.
Conner Fields (16 days ago)
I've done the same thing with exams.
Tracey Sajkowski RMT (18 days ago)
I very much appreciated this information. My son was recently diagnosed with ASD, with a previous and still additional ADHD diagnosis. I can not argue that society needs to be more accepting. That is absolute...However, if there was a cure, I would take it for my son. If these statistics of anxiety and depression, bullying and job loss go hand in hand, I would do just about anything to prevent my son from going through that. I love him exactly how he is, but he comes with challenges for parenting and for himself, making friends, and learning in school. IF I had an option to just make all of that to be gone, and those challenges become simple, or at least to the same level as everyone else (non-autistic) faces, then I would gladly take that option. We have changed his diet, and different therapies (mind you mostly this has been for ADHD), but if there was a cure for that, I'd take it too.
Christopher Inman (30 days ago)
😢. Thank you so much for speaking up for us. I would never be able to do it. This is the first of hundreds that I completely "identify?" with. It is very spot on and has much more depth than I expected. Hopefully this will create more of an understanding around the world. Personally I think there needs to be some sort of societal paradigm shift. If NT's would be less chaotic, listen, and think before they speak more we could meet on common ground. I think much of mainstream media is a big part of the problem. People you have many choices you can make in life. Make healthy, caring, unselfish ones.
Roger Keulen (1 month ago)
At my job, my boss told me two things: (1) I'm a genius. (2) I get paid 3000,- a month and that should be my satisfaction. He payed me *932,80* and the government paid 434,57 a month for 5 years long. Had 1600,- a month in my contract.
Rick Sommery-Gade (1 month ago)
Pretend to be human.....I've said that my entire life
Improbable (1 month ago)
I think that we should be trying to cure the neurotypicals.... After all they're the dishonest, vile, and self destructive ones.
C W (1 month ago)
I think she and I have very similar senses of humor.
johndoh1000 (1 month ago)
I’m sorry, but autism should be cured. Instead of adjusting to a mental disorder and accommodating inefficiency, we should strive for a society where we look to lower the rate of depression in people and lower the rates of suicide. If depression and suicide are even the most mild of symptoms that come from autism we should definitely manage it. You should stop pretending like we’re going to erase your identity when we talk about curing autism. You are autistic, you are not autism. We want you to be able to parse language with ease, we want you to find good jobs, we want you to be strong and happy. So we should want to cure the thing that is causing those problems right?
Ed Grimm (1 month ago)
I have autism. It's not my disability; it's my superpower. I'm not the one who's broken. How is it that people who cannot bring themselves to make direct statements, and cannot take a direct statement literally feel that I am the one with the problem? I've had a first time conversation with someone for the first time, during which she told me that she told me a million times I have to stop being so literal. She thought I'm the one with the communication issue. The rest of society seems to think that I'm the one with the communication issue. I say what I mean. It's easy. Do not take my autism away. For what it's worth, I've encountered a couple of low functioning autistic people who supposedly couldn't speak. After spending some time alone with them, five minutes for one, fifteen minutes for the other, they both spoke. Their English was limited, but it wasn't that they couldn't speak. They didn't want to speak to the people who didn't want to take the time to understand them. I'm sure there are low functioning autistic people who really cannot speak. But I think there's a certain amount of it that's a rejection of the world that would not accept them even if they tried more - would, in fact, accept them less if they tried more.
one plus (1 month ago)
Searching a lot on internet as i am really interested about a lot of things. So finding these videos and reasearching more i found a lot of the effect on me also. Believed until now that i am non-autictic person, until age of 25 maybe i didn't even heard of autism as a term, and finding a lot of this routines and thing's said about autistic persons in my daily routine also. I really don't care, as all we are humans so i don't find at all a problem of being autistic or not. We are all the same. I just remembered when i was young, my parents had friends or neighbours that also said that their childrens are like not listening to them and doing like stange things, don't start to talk even at 2-2.5 years, but everyone when talking between them they said.... Everything is ok... they are kids so they will learn by themself. And it was like that.... On that time there was no terms or words as Autism or Autist Persons, just that the childrens was slowly pregresing to learn and understanding things. Two boys same age 1 year old, will not progress when new born both the same. One will probably walk faster or start to talk faster, or understand things faster. This doesn't mean he is Autistic. So with all of this said.... Maybe i am autistic also.... And even finding a lot of clues that i might be... i will not go to examine myself and find out that someone will give me a diagnostic that i am Autistic. I don't care. I am living my life and enjoy it. Autism is not a disease.... It is just a different mode of living life and understanding things. So who is listening and reading this.... Just smile, be happy, don't even think of this Autism thing as they call it, just live your lifes as normal, have fun, enjoy life. Best Regards to everyone :D
Monika (1 month ago)
This video was very hard to watch. Because as it went on, I remembered a moment back in high school, when I was talking to friends. We had just talked about morality of abortion and stuff in class, and I made the argument to one my friend, that 'if they could learn to identify autism in children before they were born, and they got the choice to abort them. That'd be good'. My friend argued against me at the time, saying they have a right to live too, even if it may be harder for them. I argued against that. *I argued against that* I guess after a while I must have changed my morality and my perspective on things. Because years later in uni, when one of my friends told me she was autistic after I had told her I had ADHD, I simply thanked her for letting me know, and although I thought to myself 'she doesn't look autistic and probably has very mild autism'. I never changed how I looked at her, and I just kind of forgot over time, or didn't really think about it much. It's just now, after YouTube randomly suggested a video called 'What autistic women want you to know', and I clicked it remembering my autistic friend and wanting to better understand her, which led my down a rabbit hole of watching many videos about autism. Ending here with this one. That I now stop and think, think to myself that High-school me would have wanted to kill that current friend of mine before she was even born. The thought disgusts me. I hate my own ignorance in that situation, especially since I've grown up with ADHD myself, and have faced stigma, stereotyping, and general misunderstanding, from people I tell about my condition. I can't believe that even knowing what it's like to be different, and how hard it is when people do not understand that difference, I still had the bigotry and blindness to judge autistic people without knowing anything about them. I doubt I'll ever forgive myself for that.
Georgette Antuna (1 month ago)
You are amazing!
We must get revenge on the people who make a fuss about us WE MUST GET REVENGE ON THEM THEY UNDERESTIMATE US AND I GOT MANY SKILLS! I can do stealth moves cause I did follow some kids who were making fun of me and creeped the freak out of them and the girl was saying swear words to me so I just ignored her whole dialouge cause I didn't even care and the 3rd time i said "Hi how are you doing?" and she was swearing more than usual and i told her "Is it cause I'm different!?" I do Eye contact, I have outsmarted adults before and Tricked adults I think us autistics are even more superior human beings
Micheal Badtke (1 month ago)
I am Autistic, and if there were a cure I'd take it. You can't speak for everyone saying that "We don't want to be cured" I know it can't be cured but if there were a true and safe way for me to be normal I'd take it. There isn't a day that goes by for me that I don't wish I could be normal. Be neuro-typical. It should be optional if a cure were developed. I hate that she makes such blanket statements like that. Like no autistic person will ever want to be normal she is speaking only from her experience and not considering other autistic peoples expirences. My life is miserable, my existence is suffering, and its all because of my autism. all of the suffering ive gone through and still go through is because of my autism.
corn flaek (11 days ago)
No. It's the people that surround you, the world we live in currently. Disability exists in the context of the enviroment. Your identity isnt a disease. We are surrounded by rot and it's killing us. They want to erase us with eugenics. That sounds remarkably dystopian to me.
mark canadian (1 month ago)
Actually, society needs to be more accepting while we do try to find a cure...Let's do both!
LisV :3 (1 month ago)
It's so great to see an autistic person telling HER story, instead of an autism parent.
Kingswood Bob (2 months ago)
This was hard to hear but so powerfully put and so brave. Thanks so much for helping raise awareness and let’s work together to try and make this world a better place for our autistic brothers, sisters, daughters sons and friends... enough is enough things need to change. Kind regards (and well done! 👍 👍) Rob
tiago ciriaco (2 months ago)
Autism, is castration.Autism is due to the low levels of alkaline testosterone and high levels of acidic testosterone, in the body
uv.vibes (2 months ago)
The whole eye contact thing is that if you look at them they can see you, and you don't want to be seen, because you feel uncomfortable.. and staring could be that you want so badly for them to see you, because its someone you like. I highly suspect that i have asd, and i am female. This is just my perspective.
Marz Attarwala (3 months ago)
Nice talk.
Soozie G (3 months ago)
Thank you for explaining to me the discomfort level . Helps me understand and respect boundaries.
Julia Sawadski (3 months ago)
I love autistic people so much. They are so human and so authentic. I can't even explain it
Yannick Okpara (1 day ago)
+Raven Steiner He didn't say it was unbearable, merely implied that is is challenging as is many parts of life. You might've taken it as offense, but it was in no part offensive.
Raven Steiner (2 days ago)
+Joke Then maybe you should move?
Joke (6 days ago)
Would you still if you had to live with one? It’s real trying sometimes
fortnite gameing (3 months ago)
There must not be an actual audience. I think she is relatable and funny but there is no response from the audience. I am undiagnosed asperger's and my son is diagnosed mildly autistic. I am 10x more aspie than him. The great thing is we can understand each other when no one else can.
Nathaniel Florence (3 months ago)
The world would be better if everyone was a high functioning autistic
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
But I will wait, I will wait for you...and I will wait, I will wait for you...AND I WILL WAIT, I WILL WAIT FOR YOU! AND I WILL WAIT, I WILL WAIT FOR YOU!
Julie Hornbarger (3 months ago)
I know people that have autism, so it's so nice that I can just hear how it is. I have an amazing friend that has High-Functioning Asperger's and she is like, the best. She tried to explain how it is, so it's so nice to hear it completely explained. And it's even better that people are opening the perspective of what it is. I'm sorry, I don't know if I'm explaining this right, but I'm just so grateful for this.
Pamcakes (3 months ago)
Eye contact is so hard. So extremely hard. Growing up through elementary (90's), my teachers would get angry at me for not looking at them when they spoke to me, so I learned to "look at them" by blurring my eye focus. So I would just be staring at a massive blur, and it helped. But due to that, it was hard to concentrate on what exactly they were saying.
Zoe Kouf (17 days ago)
I always had that! It's like looking at their soul, it's always uncomfortable.
nancy wysemen (3 months ago)
Wow! You are one fantastic lady. Hit's stuff from my family .....
shelley bamford (3 months ago)
I have a son with autism and I actually diagnosed him myself ( I am a nurse) when he was in elementary school.1980's He was not recognized by medical as having autism until his young was having issues. I told my daughter in law what I thought and sure enough my granddaughter was diagnosed and because she was diagnosed so was my son. I too was eventually diagnosed, after a lifetime of misdiagnoses of chronic depression. I am 67 and just diagnosed.
Scully's eye roll (3 months ago)
I love that her jokes are specifically made for autistic people; I was laughing but nobody else was :p
Strange Angel (30 days ago)
Kourtnie McKenzie (4 months ago)
I'm autistic, and I suffer from depression, anxiety, and passive suicidal thoughts. Thank you for helping me feel less alone. I wish there was a way to make this narrative replace the other discussions our society has about autism ("why can't you be normal," "how can we cure it," all the facets you touched on).
Paradoxical Psychop0mp (2 months ago)
@Kourtnie McKenzie Hope you're feeling better and are still around. I'm also autistic (still getting used to that "label), and I know exactly what you're going through. I'm now 31. My first suicidal ideation was at 10, after 2 years of unrelenting "migraines" (now know they were social in cause), and growing up in a VERY mentally abusive home. My first attempt came at 12. My last (some would say conscious) attempt was 6 years ago, but the thoughts remain. Only through my new family (wife and daughter, plus "siblings" I've chosen) and my OCD regarding taking care of OTHER people am I still around. Long story short: you're never alone. Mathematically speaking, someone is always going through the EXACT same experience at the exact same time. Thanks to the internet, it's easier to find others in that place (hole, Trench, etc.) for support. Like here and now! Anywho, best (unwanted) advice I can give is to be kind to yourself. Let yourself be you, even if only a little bit at a time, or 20 minutes a day. It builds up your resistance to the world, and builds your coping skills. It helps me, in any case. I hope I speak for all of us when I say we're always available for you, even if we don't call to check in. Just reach out. Be it the autistic community, the chronic pain community, random fanbases, the people you may need are always there.
Christine Badostain (4 months ago)
Some people are extremely introverted for various reasons---some healthy some not so healthy---even the label "autism" should be questioned.
TheDreaming Buton (4 months ago)
Just lovely!
Sweet Cheeks (4 months ago)
Almost as good as Sam Hyde’s ted talk
La Reina del Sur (4 months ago)
Thank you for giving me a voice!
Jason Wrinkle (4 months ago)
the best genetic cure is to wipe our code off the planet... then everyone wins
Sweet Cheeks (4 months ago)
Jason Wrinkle Well damn
Derb (5 months ago)
I have met many autistic individuals that have good talents. Awareness and education is the key. God Bless!
Allen Hamilton (5 months ago)
this video has annoyed me each camera has different colour Focus, her dress keeps changing colour... Come on TEDx fix the cams.
Mary Nordseth (5 months ago)
Diagnosed in my mid-Twenties, I am now 78 yrs old. You are such a good 'role model', I'm proud to know myself better now. thanksyou. Mary
Mary Nordseth (5 months ago)
Listening to your fascinating talk, I feel 'more normal', at least within the autistic spectrum. Monique, you are a lovely 'spokeswoman'. I'm grateful.
Kathy (5 months ago)
Great talk! I feel a bit angry at the way such interesting people are put in a category as though they have a problem. Maybe at least part of the problem is with the people who decided that this group of people have a disorder. The best people I know fit into this category.
Fernando Mayorga (5 months ago)
Wrong planet though 😔
Murmur Verin (5 months ago)
She's absolutely right. Once again the sages are taken down by those whom they thought were their object of study.
Adam Greeley (5 months ago)
I have high functioning autism and she's spot on I like her speech a lot
Maite Russell (5 months ago)
Prefacing everything what I'll ask here, I'm part of the autistic community, a girl diagnosed at 3. Where...did those pie charts come from? She just sticks them in without saying what study it's from. I'd kinda like to know.
dorotheaeli1 (5 months ago)
Wow! What a good talk. Such bright ideas.
Dickiann Garcia (6 months ago)
I haven't been officially diagnosed but even as a little girl I've known that I have Autism. I'm scheduled to be evaluated the 20th of this month. Any interaction I engage in outside of myself in the world causes anxiety. All I've ever wanted to do was fit in and function like everyone else. But in the same sense, I don't want to fit in and function like everyone else. Being diagnosed officially will bring a type of closure and clarity. It sounds crazy but I will feel like I belong to something.
The Freedom Project (6 months ago)
These numbers are scary! More so when you see that this video is already two years old. It WILL be a worse situation for this community now in 2018. Heartbreaking!
Robert Vincelette (6 months ago)
If someone denies our autism with "You don't look autistic," let them prove it by giving us the same opportunities in life they give everybody else; put their money where society's mouth is.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
I keep walking around this old and empty house. So hold my hand, I'll walk with you my dear. The stairs creek as I sleep it's keeping me awake. It's the house telling you to close your eyes. Some days I don't know if I can trust myself. It's killing me to see you this way. Though the truth may vary this ship will carry our bodies safe to shore...
Stout Lager (6 months ago)
I think there is insufficient research on comorbid mood/personality disorders among people on autism spectrum. I didn't realize just how common my comorbid diagnoses were until I started reading personal accounts from other autistic people. Depression I guess I expected. OCD I did not. There are so many autistics with comorbid OCD.
MaryJane (3 months ago)
There are three main sides to Autism, one which fits easily with anxiety/social anxiety (communication issues), one which fits entirely with Sensory processing Disorder (sensory issues) and one with fits easily with OCD (reliance on routines, needing to have things a certain way, repetitive behaviours, obsessions etc.) so it's easier than normal for Autistic people to develop anxiety and OCD as a result
advancedwatcher (6 months ago)
I don't want to be 'cured'. I love being me, even though it hurts. If they 'cure' us all, who will make the breakthroughs in science, medicine, industry... who will be the great writers, the artists? They need us.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
We the best music! Another one! DJ Khaled! You stick out of the crowd, baby it's a no brainer! Him or me, be for real, it's a no brainer! Whoa oh whoa oh whoa oh whoa oh! Yeah eh yeah eh yeah eh yeah eh!
Amanda Hyde (6 months ago)
Is she speaking to a live audience? If so, the audience sucks. They should’ve applauded her when she talked about all her reading and poems. She deserves praise.
goroth01 (5 months ago)
She is a bit accusatory toward NTs in this talk. Maybe the people in the audience were a little uncomfortable because of that.
Rick James (6 months ago)
to think she has the courage to give this talk, yet shes on so much meds. If she even has a boyfriend he's probably an ogre, and even then I feel sorry for him too.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
Though the truth may vary this ship will carry our bodies safe to shore! Don't listen to a word I say! The screams all sound the same! And though the truth may vary this ship will carry our bodies safe to shore!
Dickiann Garcia (6 months ago)
Rick James Really?
Brenda Draper (7 months ago)
I'm autistic and I want the cure for myself. I don't see autism as a gift.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
Steve Laurie (7 months ago)
Women struggle so hard to fit in and not get noticed. So if you don't get noticed, you've got no one to blame except yourselves. If you know you're different - if you know you've got a problem, then the onus is on YOU to stop masking yourselves, stand up and say, "HEY - I NEED HELP!" Pretending to be neurotypical - especially if you do it really well isn't doing yourself any favors. And don't blame others for sweeping you under the rug and overlooking you because, if you're doing nt really well, they have no reason to look at you because they see you as normal as all of the other nt girls. STAND UP! WAVE YOUR ARMS AROUND! SCREAM OUT, "I NEED HELP!!!"" It's the squeaky wheel that gets the oil. Better still, go see someone, anyone, EVERYONE until you get some satisfaction. .
goroth01 (5 months ago)
The world is controlled by NTs. If you want to be able to sustain yourself without leaning on the resources of family or friends, you need a job. Which means that you need to learn how to fit in with NTs. There is no choice in this matter for people on the spectrum.
Spindles DaSpidey (5 months ago)
If anyone even listens to us, they don't believe we actually need help. And you are so uneducated on this! Until very recently (and it still happens in a few select places), if anyone autistic DARED to "wave their arms around and demand help," they'd be institutionalised. It must be nice to live in your perfect anti-autism bubble. You are so infuriating I can barely form words.
alex mcglade (7 months ago)
This young lady sounds like a very caring, insightful and useful advocate for people with autism. Could I perhaps take a different stance and suggest that the human race is diverse and unique? One of the best marketing techniques is appealing to social proof. Many people tend to follow the sheep. Some of those sheep include fashion, political stances, popular music, ect. However, there are some who don't commit to being human robots. Does this mean they should be stigmatised and have a label slapped on them? Some people may have artistic hyper connections to information and stimuli, but push them away, and certainly never admit to having them because it's not how 'normal' people's brains work. So, basically we all hide our perceptions. However most of us don't admit it. There are some people who are more open about the way they see the world. Because they are open, does that mean they should be labeled 'Autistic' or anything else? Of course their are situations where a label is useful. However, saying that, would it not be more beneficial to apply sensory acuity as a default and treat everyone as a unique and equal member of society ,instead of catogorising them within the social model of disability? Of course it goes without saying that anyone who falls under the medical model of disability should be treated and helped in a medical way. As this bright young lady states, prejudice and bullying is responsible for many of the mental health issues that people with autism face rather than autism itself. I can't help wondering whether, if more people dared to be honest about their perceptions, there would be less people clutching at their right to be labeled 'Autistic' and more people embrasing their human diversity and their right to 'simply be'.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
Whoa oh whoa oh, whoa oh whoa oh! Yeah eh yeah eh, yeah eh yeah eh! Baby's it's a no brainer! Choose between him or me, baby it's a no brainer!
Kenz (7 months ago)
I don't want to be cured, but I do want to get better. Having autism is like having some kind of hidden superpower. Often, I don't have to study for tests. I'm very reflective and sensitive, and I'm able to interact with the world, and other people, in a way that I just could not do if I were not autistic, because it would be seen as selfish and not genuine, but since I do have autism, I feel like my innocence and naivete are noticed and in many cases my behavior is excused. I get to see life through the eyes of so many who are disabled or maybe just young and inexperienced, yet I have experience and wisdom sometimes beyond my years. It's a wonderful gift in many ways. I would like to take all of the good I have to offer the world, though, and hide the bad in a nice little box.
Gaston Gourmand (3 months ago)
That's the price you pay! Leave behind your heart ache, cast away! Just another product of today! Rather be the hunter than the prey! AND YOU'RE STANDING ON THE EDGE FACE-UP CAUSE YOU'RE A NATURAL! A BEATING HEART OF STONE! WE GOTTA BE SO COLD, TO MAKE IT IN THIS WORLD! BABY, YOU'RE A NATURAL! LIVING YOUR LIFE CUTTHROAT! YOU GOTTA BE SO COLD! BABY, YOU'RE A NATURAL! From Imagine Dragons.
Der Rabbit (7 months ago)
Max: I love being an Aspie! Me: I love being me!
Aurora Borealis (8 months ago)
Thank you for this. From a misunderstood, Innocently Convicted "criminal" due to my ASD... Thanks, Society.
Feldi (8 months ago)
In that one camera angle... in half profile... there is a dead pixel and it makes me mad.
Margaret Gardner (8 months ago)
Her dress looks blue in one camera and green in the other. It's a little annoying, lol :D
Saw wil (8 months ago)
Autistic adults, when you close one eye does it look different than when both eyes open???
goroth01 (5 months ago)
Sure... a large part of the visual field is gone. There also isn't the overlap in the middle of the visual field that can cause funkiness when the pictures from each eye don't exactly match up. What are you getting at with this question though? That should be the same regardless of whether a person is autistic or typical.
Alyssa JJ Thomas (8 months ago)
Vaccinations are related to the development of autism in children. Not in every case but in a high percentage.
GD Sparky_01 (3 months ago)
Alyssa JJ Thomas no.
La Reina del Sur (4 months ago)
Alyssa JJ Thomas no.
T.I.M.E. (9 months ago)
Thank you.
Christine Terrill (9 months ago)
Thank you*
SONIC FOXX MUSIC (9 months ago)
Why does her dress keep changing colour???
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Toby (9 months ago)
Great talk, I feel the same way. It is minority stress, we should identify it as what it is.
Alto's Music Lab (9 months ago)
3 things, I think I'm suggestible too, and Now I want to read the Nurenburg transcripts! and Lastly be careful when you watch these Tedx Talks!
Ashley ASHLEYM (9 months ago)
Regardless of how accepting society is, those struggles won't just disappear, because in order for those problems to disappear we need to give those struggles to the majority without autism. A cure eliminates struggles. Unless you want to struggle, in which case I think that's idiotic but more power to you. If you don't want to be cured fine, that's for you to decide, but for those that don't want to struggle they should have a cure.
Phil Strong (9 months ago)
absolutely magnificent Monique
Grey Muldoon (9 months ago)
I don't think we need to solve the debate of "cure verses accept" in order to work towards leveling opportunities. We don't think its fine fire people who can do their job, or refuse to support them, if they need mobility devices, or vision aids, because we can imagine it. Can you imagine if we refused humanity to people with different body types until they were "cured", giving no effort to changing society instead... I agree that we could adjust imaginations and attitudes. Its a waste of time trying to convince people not to want a cure. Its better to try to see that there are valuable people not seen as they are. It should become obvious that it does not need a cure even if one might be preferred by some. Until we have seen what a new world full of peoole bearing less-stressed / supported for autistic traits would look like, we cannot seperate the actual experience from the current quiet horror of being seen as diseased, bad people rather than just unusually stressed or challenged.
Raven Black (10 months ago)
I'm on the spectrum as well, and I love this ted talk so much! It's formatted beautifully! Personal experiences in combination with facts and stats. I often compare my way of thinking and social interactions to computer programming. I tend to automatically follow a script when interacting with others, and when something I didn't expect happens it's like a big error code in my brain functioning with social interactions and/or my daily plans.
Ludmila Marešová (10 months ago)
I love this. I have been trying my whole life to fit in, to adjust myself and to act like a "normal human." I have accepted that it's me who is weird and not everyone else. So why can't they accept my difference and tolerate it like I have tolerated theirs?
Clever Boots (10 months ago)
As a mother of four Autistics and an Autistic myself (we are all high-functioning) I have to say that the bit in your talk where you made the point about NT's being more willing to invest money, time, and effort in 'finding a cure' rather than just adjusting even a little to being more accepting particularly rang true as did the bit about how much of the stress among Autistics stems from the anxiety related to how we are treated. One only has to listen to a few minutes of 'Autism talk' by NT's, to feel attacked. The things my children hear on a daily basis are enough to drive me batty. Thank you for this video--great job.
Ben Lindsay (8 days ago)
+Swan Lei well said, an autistic society would be interesting to see though.
Cain Alexander (14 days ago)
+Swan Lei You're not incorrect but I don't believe segregating Autistic folks is the answer. I think acceptance and working together better is the answer.
Swan Lei (17 days ago)
+NSEasternShoreChemist the thing is... finding a cure ISNT easier for NT's.... it only looks easier than becoming more accepting because NT people are afraid to accept that anyones brain functions LEGITIMATELY different than theirs. And I emphasize the LEGITIMATELY part because, our brains do not function 'incorrectly'... our brains function in ways that make lack of social comprehension little to no problem. Our brains function in ways that NT minds could never. We have an advantage just like they have an advantage. This makes me want to gather everyone on the Autistic spectrum up to create our own communities and (maybe) society. NT people would only then see how much of an advantage over them we'd have. And unfortunately only then will they understand how theyve used their advantages over us in demeaning ways that only served to make them look better. If neurotypicals lived in a society that MOSTLY catered to the communication styles of Autistics, they'd be miserable too....... becuase our brains function in ways theirs could never.
NSEasternShoreChemist (4 months ago)
If finding a cure is easier than becoming slightly more accepting, that doesn't say much for our species IMO.
Melissa (10 months ago)
The statement about trying to fix autism rather than accept it... it coins it, sadly very very true. Thank you for sharing 💖 God Bless yoy!!
Diane (11 months ago)
Good talk well done - wish people would have laughed at your jokes more but hey ho that's generally how people react to an autistic person telling jokes! Would like to add that they (autistics, yes I am one) can't always do the work. I tried waitressing and Specsavers - awful awful awful! They might not believe that I was doing my best - but I was. They were nerve grinding jobs that had me crying myself to sleep at night and yes, wishing not to wake up in the morning (including shall I do something to stop me from waking in the morning?!)
Ed Grimm (1 month ago)
It's true that autistics cannot perform well in jobs that require communicating with people with normally low social skills. I only know one person who was fired for admitting that he was autistic, but then I work in IT, where such a thing is patently ridiculous. (I'm pretty sure the firing manager, for example, was also autistic.) That one story I know of has a happy ending, because I was able to help him into a better job at a better company. But entry level jobs are another matter. As an aspie, I found working as a bagger in a grocery store was doable. I think shelf stocking would also be readily doable. They're sort of in public jobs, but customer interaction is not as critical. Bussing tables could potentially also fit there, and washing dishes and cooking should certainly be doable. That said, that all depends on the company presenting an autistic friendly work environment, becuase if they don't, they won't have any jobs that work well for us.
13thGenPatriot (1 year ago)
When you say "why" to a cure for autism, I would offer a few reasons. First, not everyone is "high functioning". It would be a huge boon to those that are not neurotypical to have enough of a cure that they could communicate. Second, Monique's own statistics demonstrate that nearly half the autistic community suffer from anxiety disorders and nearly three quarters suffer from clinical depression. She also said that 64% of the autistic community have suicidal thoughts and 17% have suicide attempts before the age of 17. So YES, I want a cure for autism. Two of my children are autistic. My oldest has depression, anxiety, and has had suicidal thoughts. She has been in therapy for a few years now. So again...yes...my heart aches for a cure for my kids.
MoBo5656 (11 months ago)
But my research also shows that the depression and anxiety isn't part of autism neccesarily, but rather related to how autistic people are treated by the world around them. Autistic people themselves, do not want a cure. Autistic people want acceptance. I feel you missed the point. Similarly, experiences of everyday discimination, expectation of rejection, victimisation, bullying, etc are what predicts a large amount of poorer mental wellbeing, and also inadequate social support from various social services (a way in which we regularly fail autistic people). Without experiences of discrimination, the rate of depression and anxiety reduces massively. That matters. You want a cure for your children, but from my research I gather the majority of autistic people don't. Similarly, please don't assume that being verbal now equates to functioning in childhood. That is a common misconception. Similarly, verbality doesn't relate to functioning as such. Some who are non-verbal still understand everything that is happening around them, and some who are verbal still struggle with some activities of daily living, and autistic community generally advocates access to supports for those people to make communication easier and also living. Also, the autistic community resent functioning labels on the whole because it doesn't accurately represent their experiences or feelings of what it means to be autistic or experience autism. I respect that you have a different view but felt I should clarify on those elements.
Mortimer Toynbee (1 year ago)
She really hits the nail on the head
Nom DePlume (1 year ago)
These statistics are so sad. Awareness seems to be the key. You are doing good work. I hope society changes someday.
Ehhh (1 year ago)
They are not trying to write you out of human genetics... because you are not autism. you compared it to having brown hair. if there was no brown hair, would you stop existing? no! you'd just have different hair. you would still have the same likes, dislikes, opinions and interests. but you would be able to communicate them better, and feel more confident in groups. you'd understand situations easily and have a much easier time navigating conversation. i can hear your voice trembling when you say this, but you are understanding the goal wrong (you might recognize this as one of the problems with autism). they are not trying to erase you, they are trying to remove an obstacle to bringing you closer.
Ehhh (1 month ago)
+C W if you are having trouble integrating with society and living a happy life, i would say a fix is something that should be sought after. seeking improvement is never a bad thing, provided it's done responsibly.
C W (1 month ago)
+Ashley ASHLEYM How is it a cure? It's not a disease.
C W (1 month ago)
+Ehhh Why does it need to be fixed to make you happy?
MaryJane (3 months ago)
+Ashley ASHLEYM Your issue here is that your acceptance of people with special needs is attached to the fact that they entertain you, when no, autistic people, and other special needs people, have a right to exist regardless of whether or not it pleases you. And you accepting that it exists is not what we mean by accept, acceptance in this context refers to accepting that it exists and that that's fine.
Excelsior32 (1 year ago)
I'm 20 and I'm currently going through diagnosis
It not whats wrong with me... trust me!
no morr (1 year ago)
Yes, I'm finally understood.
Mel Boom (1 year ago)
I'm getting really iritated by the fact that her dress is changing colour when the camera angle changes
D M (1 year ago)
Thank you Monique. I have posted this to LinkedIn and FB.

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