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Is pretty boy an insult?

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Angel Navarro (1 month ago)
Zayn Malik, Zac Efron, Justin Bieber etc... are considered Pretty Boys and a lot of girls are in crazy love with them so I think is a compliment.
Izuna Ishikawa (2 months ago)
I'm a 10/10, on the female rating scale. . . . .
SlideRulePirate (2 months ago)
Not something I need to worry about.
Bswank Done (2 months ago)
I'm a strong man that could kill someone with my bare hands if my life depended on it, don't call me pretty or cute, even though I am. That's a term for women. If you use feminine characteristics on a masculine man, I will be aggressive towards you and immediately have serious anger & resentment towards you.
LAANK (1 month ago)
Lmfao how cute you little pretty boy, Shut the fuck up with your low self of stem, did it make you say that, go fuck yourself you retarded cunt, Nobody cares with your alpha or beta or cuck shit with your gay ass shit go suck a dick or i will slaughter your mom, I fucking hate stereotypical people like you, ignorant cunt, If you can't say shit(argue) you just insult and scream like little fag. it's okay for your girls(Little Dyke ass bitch ass ugly ass lesbians) But not for MEN! fuck y'all libtards and Nobody cares you old cunt, i hope you die or i will fuckin' shoot you Not really i will Stab the fuck Out of your stomach and watch you rumble and cry and die after that i grab a blade and skin your face off, you don't know how happy am i thinking to do that to you little twat.
Lil Zipp (3 months ago)
i've never thought of it an insult as i consider myself a "pretty boy" though i dont believe that term to be an insult as men should have their feminine side in tune in my opinion and hiding from that i would consider to be less masculine. yes i am pretty as fuck and im swaggy with it if someone were to try to use that term to suggest i was less than a man i would express my self as unbothered which in turn would seem to others that i am okay with my sexuality and that i am more of a man, so basically im a pretty ass nigga and thats that
Hititdj (3 months ago)
pretty boys are the so called cool guys and that are layed back and usually have light color hair, examples: william levy, chris hemsworth, liam hemsworth, david beckham, brad pitt (in his younger days), kellan lutz they are all pretty boys, a bunch fucks that girls seem to think they are sexy and hot
Ethan Jones (4 months ago)
I’ve been called that by women but never by men. The girls who tell me that always seem to be attracted to me. I don’t think I’d find it an insult I a guy called me that. I’d probably just grin and say, “I know.” Sounds douchey, but it’s better to come off a little douchey than to get defensive.
B A Ryan (5 months ago)
Intention determines wether something is an insult or not - you lemons! ; - ) 🌸
MoovieDude (6 months ago)
In the same sense that gym rat is used a backhanded insult. A lot of times when people are talking about pretty boys or now "fuck boys" it is a negative way.
Sunshine Records,VEVO (7 months ago)
the name metrosexual tookover in the 90s to include more manly pretty boys
Jaysong (7 months ago)
I thought pretty boy used to be slang fro gay or something . . . ? IDK I heard that somewhere.
Laramie Monroe (8 months ago)
boys are prettier than girls in some countries. it wouldn't apply there.
Andrew Gonzalez (8 months ago)
In Spanish... yes.
Saint Raghu (9 months ago)
Tbh every single person thinks I’m gay or atleast a bisexual 🤦🏻‍♂️
Hexa (9 months ago)
What the fuck is a pretty boy
Abu Savage (11 months ago)
I actually hate when girls or guys call me that because it suggests I’m too dainty or too sensitive to do anything other than focus on my appearance. Yes i do put effort in how i dress and how i style my hair but that doesn’t mean I’m too much of a pussy to work hard and get my hands dirty from time to time. I work on my car, i unclog toilets, i clean drains, etc. idk maybe I’m not alone here but i hate being called this nickname.
It's always been how you used it. It could be either or depending
Sherrod Adams (1 year ago)
i use to be mad when i was call that in school..lmao boys use to sing pretty ricky songs behind me when i was standing at my locker and shit..girls use to think i was gay,bc i didnt date them.
BARBATUS 89 (1 year ago)
A figurative faggot called me ugly, so I called him a pretty boy, mocking his cowardice for not showing his face. His accusation has truth in it because I AM somewhat ugly, just as I am somewhat handsome. I'm average.
Dog D3fault (1 year ago)
Someone said on my musically wow ur pretty
I think it's more a descriptive neutral rather than it being good or bad as it describes a type of look rather than the positive or negative connotation of that look. (but that only applies to England as that's where I am from).
MagicalMBeth (1 year ago)
So here's a question that you sort of hit on at the very end. A few of my friends and I were wondering whether or not gender queer will continue to be a label people attach to themselves if/when the social construct of "gender" disappears. I understand that people do feel like their gender and physical sex don't match sometimes - and I beyond respect that, but how much of this feeling do you believe is social construct?
Kathrynryn (2 years ago)
I like it when guys are pretty, even to the point of looking androgynous... but the 'boyish' look does nothing for me, despite the overlap. Anyone else get this?
Rosalie Stevenson (2 years ago)
I've noticed that when used as an insult it seems to be coming more from males, and likely ones that are insecure in their own sexuality and personage so they have to put others down. But that is the truth for most bullies. I've rarely heard a lady used it as an insult. Instead using it to describe a non-traditionally attractive male (lean, long hair, soft features) who is quite attractive. I'm not sure but I think the "manly man is attractive by being super manly" was more made up by what MEN think a man should be than what women want. If the drooling over characters like Legolas, Loki, Spencer Reid and many others with a solid female following who are interested partially BECAUSE of how pretty those guys are.
JeSuis KC (2 years ago)
what I just noticed is that in other languages (like German for me) people call men and boys pretty without any insulting connotation
Mark Murex (2 years ago)
It is a total insult. You are saying 'you look like a girl'.
Dark Cutie (2 years ago)
Pretty boy swag (swag)
Jake (2 years ago)
I prefer ruggedly handsome
bangingthedoldrums (2 years ago)
1D on the thumbnail: automatic click
Bryn Walsh (2 years ago)
It's like calling a guy cute. It can go either way if a woman says it, but if a guy says it it's an insult. My go-to comeback to someone saying that "You're prettier than [female]" is just to say that I come from better stock.
Reese'spieces (2 years ago)
Its a compliment.
Anthony Delamont (2 years ago)
When a woman uses the phrase, it could go either way. When a man uses it, it is always an insult.
Mr ThoughtCrime (2 years ago)
Wait, how are pretty boys less fake? If someone is just naturally good looking, then that means they never had to work hard to be attractive.
Bobzeda (2 years ago)
It is usually ALWAYS meant as an insult. I hate it.
André D (2 years ago)
I'm ugly as fuck, I wish I could be a 'pretty boy' for just one day. Just to see if I would get respect and not made fun of.
francksix (2 years ago)
I would just like to stop peoplecalling me fugly.
Brian Kronz (2 years ago)
To me a pretty boy is just another name for a good looking guy.
Bawbster1 (2 years ago)
Us guys hate being called Creep and Pretty Boy
Orangebloods (2 years ago)
In Texas back in the 70's "pretty boy" meant he is gay.
GUILDAMESH (2 years ago)
Though many women don't understand this, its insulting Perhaps not as much coming from a woman but from our gender peers Its a behavior in our eyes, and not a comment on how attractive we are Men don't care what other guys looks like And it is a behavior that is often associated with and I quote ‘douchebags’
Idontknowwhat2type (2 years ago)
I thought the use of "pretty boy" was only an insult to those who used it as a way to describe a man who can not provide. I've really only heard it used that way in the south in a serious way. I have heard it from older men using it to describe kids or young men who did not work on a farm or fix things or provide for family because they thought they could get by on their looks. Just how Ive seen it. I've also heard it to describe fairly good looking men who are going to school.
John NoNameGibbon (2 years ago)
Whether it's an insult or not, I am one. I'm stuck lookin' boyish in my twenties.
Dan0101010101010 (2 years ago)
Brian Kronz (2 years ago)
+Dan0101010101010 His jaw is not that big.  The man was prettier then most women in his prime.
Dan0101010101010 (2 years ago)
+bobby smith I agree he looks it, but he has a massive jaw etc hes dead in the middle
Brian Kronz (2 years ago)
+Dan0101010101010 Brad Pitt is is a pretty boy to me
ocelotl (2 years ago)
+Dan0101010101010 yea that's life man, we just have to make the best out of what we have you know.
Dan0101010101010 (2 years ago)
+Alan Vazquez Truei m the same as you, pretty much, im very very honest though. I know my weaknesses and strengths. Yea no one has it all, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, its kinda unfair that manly looking men are the only ones accepted as men, when really a pretty guy can be stronger faster bigger and more virile than him, but just doesn't look manly in the face.  Thats life. I am stronger faster etc than most manly men I compete with in sports. But most ppl would guess otherwise at first glance. It would be a good guess too as a high testosterone manly male is probably more likely to be stronger more virile etc but not always.
nah it's not. you know what funny tho? when other haterish/jealous type of males call me a "pretty boy" to try and offend me when i can absolutely care less and actually take it as a complement
+Julian de Castro true true haha
donlga siko (3 years ago)
Now days pretty boy = One Direction Fuckers... may be during the beatles days that was a completment.
Brian Kronz (2 years ago)
+donlga siko I know a bunch of women in their early 20's who love them.  It must not know many women.
donlga siko (2 years ago)
+bobby smith i have yet to meet a girl who actually "love" them seriously... girls who love them are like 13... and beatlemania was like a million times crazier.
Brian Kronz (2 years ago)
+donlga siko Girls their age love them so that kind of is a compliment.
timotheus nakashona (3 years ago)
It's pretty demeaning to be called a pretty boy, I've been called pretty apparently because I have very female like lashes and a soft jaw line. At first it was awful but now I just laugh about it.
timotheus nakashona (3 years ago)
Oh, dear you have beautiful EYES!
Random Person (3 years ago)
For what it's worth, the Oxford English Dictionary defines "pretty-boy" as: " A man who is attractive in a feminine way; an effeminate or narcissistic man; (also) a male homosexual; (ironically) a thug, a ruffian, a heavy." (OED Third Edition, March 2007)
Stephen Barton (3 years ago)
I think the best word for how it makes us feel is Emasculating. Let's put it this way. I would feel most attractive after emerging from the woods after being lost for a week: unshaven, dirty, and bloody, armed with nothing but the new story of how I survived a week in the woods, oh my God, I just had the best idea for a beer commercial. Basically, calling me a "pretty boy" (or even sometimes "cute") puts a wedge between me and manhood.
Alicia F. (3 years ago)
I definitely think it can be both. In western culture, it veers towards insult far more often, from what I've seen, as it indicates a shallowness about that "boy" as if there were nothing to them beyond their prettiness. However, in more East Asian culture, it's increasingly positive? In the last like 5 years in SKR, cosmetics "for men" sales have shot up by almost 63% because of the influence of the popular "flower boy" trend. It's kinda interesting how not caring about "prettiness" overseas is now being interpreted as "lazy" even, when compared with how it's seen as things like pretentious and "prissy" in the US. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Alicia F. (3 years ago)
Also, one source to cite my sh!t here: http://abcnews.go.com/International/korean-flower-men-increasingly-turning-cosmetics-plastic-surgery/story?id=17328380
Anh Nguyen (3 years ago)
showing selective double standards once again lol
Darren Luke (3 years ago)
Depends on who is saying it and who they are saying it to.  I have had people comment on my clothes and when I thank them, they have a confused look like "You do know I was insulting you? Right?"  But they don't actually say that.  Do you think I am weird for thanking people who insult me?
K. Fernandez (3 years ago)
being called pretty boy not an insult its harassment
ShayPlayz (3 years ago)
Only if it is intended as an insult, it is one. Used as a complement, then it is one. Straight boys saying "pretty boy" to another boy would be considered as an insult, because they are making fun of them, referring to the feminine "pretty". Complements on the other hand are usually said by straight women because they're referring to attractiveness or like they're saying "he is so cute!" (I am saying "straight girls/boys" because this topic is kind of about heterosexuality.)
vampyresmiles713 (3 years ago)
As a relatively androgynous transguy, I'd be actually pretty cool with being called a pretty boy, since, hey, the person calling me that at least sees me as a dude. On that note, why are (generally young) women who are less feminine/have traditionally masculine interests called tomboys? Shouldn't it be tomgirls?
Ompabop (3 years ago)
It makes sence being called a boy is insulting to a man. I'm a woman, not a girl.
Elizabeth Montgomery (3 years ago)
Actually I think it seems like an insult of jealousy on the part of person insulting the "pretty boy" they wish they could look as good and are lashing out based on that jealousy
Bassline Babe (3 years ago)
My boyfriend and I stick to using a so called group of "feminine" adjectives when we compliment each other, using almost exclusively terms such as pretty and beautiful but never words such as handsome. We often discuss the absurdities of social constructs and perceived norms and we're both happy to largely ignore them and just be us. 
Brittany Pines (3 years ago)
I don't think it's necessarily an insult, but it is something that my husband and his friends joke around about (but my husband is a joker, so pretty much anything is up for it). It's amusing to me to hear so many comments about liking pretty boys- I'm usually not a fan. But perhaps that's because I'm not a traditionally "pretty" girl. In my experience it's sort of similar to metrosexual, kind of just depends on who is using it whether or not it's an insult.
Nana Nana (3 years ago)
I guess in the end whether it it's an insult or not, it depends on the way the person says it? If they say it as a compliment and mean it as a compliment, why wouldn't it be a compliment? And if they say it in a derogatory way, well they're pretty much butt-holes. Because "pretty" is usually used to describe someone with dainty features, which, you know, it's something women are praised for, because that's "what we're supposed to be" *sarcastic tone*, it must be TERRIBLY INSULTING *sarcastic tone once again* FOR A GUY TO BE DEGRADED TO A FEMALE CHARACTERISTIC... In the end I find it more insulting for people to think that "pretty boy" is an insult (like how calling a guy a "girl" or a "pussy" it's like the worst thing you could possibly say) than the phrase itself. But hey, I guess I as a girl would feel wierd if someone called me handsome pretty much because I'm not used to it.
Kioko Salaam (3 years ago)
Pretty boy swag? 😂😂
YungBlack Oz (3 years ago)
Pretty boy is a compliment first it is calling someone pretty and secondly all girls and some of the guys (gays) like pretty boys.
Lauren Temple (3 years ago)
pretty boys are the best
AwsomenessRain (3 years ago)
I'm the prettiest boy I know
TiBun (3 years ago)
I had never taken Pretty boy to be negative. Personally, I like being called a pretty boy. however, I do see how todays' sexist standards of "pretty" being feminine could go along with the sexist idea that boys and men can't be in touch with their feminine side and if they play with dolls or do "girly" things, they will become gay or some BS like that.  I think we need to toss gender rolls out the window and raise our kids in gender neutral ways so that they can find themselves their own way. I know if I have kids I'll be teaching them that being a pretty boy is just as ok as being a tomgirl. they are two sides of the same coin.
Francisco Rodriguez (3 years ago)
The lamp in the background is black and blue.
Doki Notes (3 years ago)
I call my boyfriend pretty and mean it as a compliment. His eyes are deep sparkly blue x3 "pretty"
Rene (3 years ago)
I just think of Reid every time.
p ford (3 years ago)
OMG UR ENGAGED!!! congrats.
Jason Gallegos (3 years ago)
evolving.  I've been called pretty boy.  And all my life i've understood it as an insult.  meaning weak.  Then seeing the term changing to gay.  I'm not gay.  But more then any things i hate being called a boy.
Frances Carter (3 years ago)
Can you do a video on  why 'oh he/she is just out of my league' where did that come from? Why, if you like someone, do they suddenly become better than you and you don't deserve them? Why do I use this to justify not trying/putting myself out there in relationships? Is it socially ingrained? What purpose could it possibly serve? I'll stop there. And by the way I love you, and your videos, and thank you for sharing your beautiful self with the world.
Ginger Benson (3 years ago)
I often refer to a nice looking man as a pretty big. I consider it a compliment, and actually a form of flirting. Love me some pretty boys.
kelly mahoney (3 years ago)
Okay but what about Pony Boys?? Stay gold.
HattiesaurusRex (3 years ago)
I definitely use it as a compliment more often than not when referring to males. It's funny though, because my boyfriend HATES to be called "pretty" or "cute" because he feels that as a man, he should only be called handsome.
Alyssa Danielle (3 years ago)
Personally, I think it depends on the guy. Some guys (especially those concerned with masculinity) would certainly take it as an insult, while others (like my boyfriend, whom I nicknamed "pretty") take it as a compliment. P.s. That ring is beautiful!! :) congrats to you two!
LuckyMangakaonYT (3 years ago)
I think its rather interesting as in shoujo manga there are hundreds of pretty boys so for me it is nothing but a compliment to male physique and beauty.
pandemonium san (3 years ago)
"Dandy" boy
Ariphon (3 years ago)
I have used pretty boy as an insult before, but not as a less masculine way, but more self absorbed way to highlight his poor actions. But I also think that there is nothing inherently wrong with being a pretty boy, but that is the only other option beside being a Macho Man. I am neither, I don't fit into any male gender physical norms. So what do you think constitutes manliness, is it physical prowess or is it genetic attractiveness?
Joy Tracy (3 years ago)
I call my cis boyfriend "pretty" and "beautiful" all the time. He does the same for me even when I'm in "boy mode" (I'm a bit gender fluid) and we always take them as complements.
Chris Morose (3 years ago)
42billybob (3 years ago)
Kind of does work as an insult. You touched on the why. It biases towards the whole vanity thing which has been derrogatory ever since democracy of the working class has been the ideal. The aritocracy was the gold standard of effeminate men and fuck those oppressive over-privileged asshats. The boy/man dynamic makes up the other half. Best come back to being called a prettyboy is "sorry bro, I don't swing that way". Negates the insult, questions their orientation, establishes a rejection dynamic, and puts them on the defensive. It's a lot to correct all at once, and lets you walk away immediately as the victor.
Kitsune Kyubino (3 years ago)
As ever, tone is key.  If the spoken tone is scathing or sarcastic then it can be inferred that their intention is malign; but if they are someone close to you, speaking softly and it sounds like a compliment, thn that is how it is probably intended.
SequenceofSound (3 years ago)
The first thing when I saw that lamp behind her was, "is it white and gold or black and blue." Obvious answer: white and brown.
DM (3 years ago)
I'm glad you used 90s Leo DiCaprio cause he's one of the prettiest boys(human being) that has ever existed ☺️
SmolSleepRoyal (3 years ago)
I'm a pretty boy and proud of it!
jmcosmos (3 years ago)
In my connotational lexicon, "pretty boy" implies many of the same things for men that "bimbo" does for women: shallowness, vacuousness, inanity, narcissism ... someone who's so busy admiring how nice he looks that he behaves as though he hasn't three brain cells to hit together.
reemCGR (3 years ago)
+jmcosmos Good point
Emily (3 years ago)
It is definitely a compliment when my friends and I say it. It's pretty much the exact opposite of a fuck boy which is a very negative term.
Rowan (3 years ago)
For me, "pretty" is the highest compliment I can give a boy, but I feel like it's different than society's idea of "pretty boy" which is generally seen as insult (although it shouldn't be).
Peter Dvornik (3 years ago)
This may be weird, but -- I think saying "you look pretty today" to a guy is a kind of insulting but calling a guy "pretty boy" is a complement.
Peter Dvornik (3 years ago)
+Emma Karen​ ok, so i tought about it a little more and i think i have it figured out. If someone called me pretty, i would interpret that as them describing me as feminine, and as someone who takes pride in his masculinity, i would take that as an insult. However if someone were to call me a pretty boy, i would interpret that as them saying "you put effort into your appearance, and it shows", so i would take that as an insult.
Emma Karen (3 years ago)
Really? That's a bit odd, could you try to explain why? Cause like, that was very confusing to me
Alexius Nemo (3 years ago)
To me...yup an insult in today's English. Guys who are handsome, i.e. George Clooney or Ryan Gosling are almost pretty but have a strong persona that prohibits anyone from calling them "boy". To me a pretty boy is attractive but almost a porcelain doll.
Goomba Pie (3 years ago)
I feel like if I called a guy "pretty", it would be meant and taken as a compliment, in fact just the other day I told a guy he had pretty eyes and it went over as a simple and casual compliment (and he was a super straight guy I barely know). But spin it as the term "pretty boy" and suddenly it becomes pretty clear that I must mean either I think he looks too feminine or too painstakingly perfectly groomed. You can be a pretty male person but the term "pretty boy" definitely has its own meaning now.
Kiera Demorest (3 years ago)
I think that it is the intent behind the words that make it an insult.  If a guy is offended when they are called "pretty" or "pretty boy" with a positive connotation, that probably has more to do with them not being comfortable in their own skin than what the other person has said. My friends, including a gay boy, often call boys they find aesthetically pleasing "pretty".  Although this is just the opinion of a cis girl, so.
xDakitoy (3 years ago)
lol newman. 
jg123789 (3 years ago)
Is Cristen engaged?
Jessica Paquette (3 years ago)
I think it depends on the user's intent, it then either becomes a compliment or insult!
Sofia Bergman (3 years ago)
Honestly, why do Sherlock and John ALWAYS come up in videos that have nothing to do with them at all???? WHY ARE MY SONS HAUNTING ME
Sofia Bergman (3 years ago)
they're haunting me
+Sofia Bergman ah, you mean in the examples of pretty boys actors.
Sofia Bergman (3 years ago)
look after 2:00!
+Sofia Bergman Who what where?
SirAlex0014 (3 years ago)
I never thought that pretty boy was an insult until I got to college and I think it should be a compliment. I also like the look of "pretty boys" a lot.
SkyFighterProductions (3 years ago)
All I can say is that I's rather be considered a pretty boy over a f#ck boy any day haha
Joe Alt (3 years ago)
I never knew pretty boy was an insult. I like pretty boys and I know them as twinks.
hcheyne (3 years ago)
I think Pretty boy is prison slang that suggests you are going to dominate someone similar to making them your Bitch. An unfortunate reference to prison rape.

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