Cristen highlights five significant differences between shyness and social anxiety, or social phobia.
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I can’t tell what my issue is.... I keep thinking I’m one of those kids that everyone kid says they have depression or anxiety to get attention or something for sympathy but I don’t want to say I do that. I have trouble processing things and I never can actually start a conversation with people I don’t know. When I talk to them I just don’t know what to say, I blush, but when I know the answer sometimes I just don’t know how to answer it so I’ll just keep talking, and then people say I start talking really fast, and something that I always notice is that I start to mumble and I have no clue how to speak anymore and I can NEVER, I mean NEVER look at someone in the eye for longer than 20 seconds. Sometimes at night I’ll just start to cry and I have no clue why and that’s what happened to me tonight.. so I decided to look up symptoms of anxiety and stuff and I keep thinking I’m one of those kids that just say they have it but they actually don’t and they just do it for attention. Someone please help me out here and tell me if I’m just someone looking for attention or if it IS possible I have some type of anxiety. Oh yeah and sometimes when there is attendance I have to prepare for my name to call and I feel like I’m gonna here my name and not say anything and then after they call my name, I say here and look around the classroom to see if anyone is looking at me thinking “why did it take him so long to reply”
Can you have social anxiety amd not be shy because im generally not a shy person but i think everyone hates me i always think someones watching me and i feel like people hate me for the stupiest reasons like i have a stain on my pants
I’ve ended up going by 6 different names because of anxiety! When talking to people (online or in person) I frequently forget important details such as name and age. Thankfully, I don’t have any relationships with anyone anymore so I don’t have to memorize what name people call me.
I’m extremely confused I don’t know if it’s shyness or social anxiety: 1: I will do/make up ANY kind of excuse to not participate in school sports/activities as I’m really scared that I’m going to be judged harshly for it so I’ll make up an excuse that I’m feeling sick or I haven’t finished my work. 2: whenever my Mum sends me to go grab some groceries I start to get really sweaty and I just sit still in the car looking at the ground then my mum gets mad and I blame myself for refusing to go. 3: I am extremely scared to make phone calls even if it’s my closest friends/cousins, whenever In a call my mind wonders off thinking of what to say and it gets awkwardly silent then I make up an excuse and say: “It’s dinner my parents are calling me sorry!” Then I hang up. 4: Whenever I walk in shopping centres (any social area) I feel like everyone’s looking at me judging me 24/7, talking about me so I always grab a cousin/ friend to come with me. 5: I can never get up during class without thinking people are staring blankly at me yet again judging me. 6: If I finish a test early I get so scared that my answers aren’t right to I try fixing them up and I end up thinking about day dreaming completely forgetting about the test which is the same as in class i day dream and find it hard to control my mind but my mind just wonders off which becomes a problem.(Mind me I’m 12).
I still have no idea if I have social anxiety or shyness (I'm not saying this video didnt help because it really did) because I have this awful voice/bad thoughts (it's not like an actual voice though I don't have schizophrenia) that always tells me stuff like "why did you say that you're so stupid" or "stop that they're looking at you" stuff like that. I also always feel self-conscious and I never actually want to go to social situations but I feel like I have to or else everyone will hate me. The voice also says it's going to create karma karma karma
I also feel extremely uncomfortable around people and I hate I *hate* being touched by anyone even if it's a pat on the back or a hug or if someone touches my shoulder
I also hate loud situations when lots of people are talking at the same time I just feel so overwhelmed by all the noise
I've also lost interest in everything and I only feel like hiding in my closet and listening to music.
So if someone could explain what's going on in my head that would be great :)
There is nothing wrong with been shy, human networks to work well need both the extro and intro vert sides.
Today's corporate culture bullcrap selection is wrong, when networks or network hubs get to that point where competing elements are eliminated they tend to self destroy overtime.
Honestly, I'm scared of classrooms and having to sit in a room full of people I don't know, I'm scared to talk to them. I'm scared of dancing on stage after have bee doing it since I was nine. Yet I still feel sick to my stomach every year. I've been labeled the shy girl in everything and it's annoying. I've made two friends in the span of four years that don't hate me (I've managed to make a few but after a while I get comfortable and when they do something that makes me uncomfortable get mad at me and stop talking to me)
Just to messily list a few
Ugh I hate having social anxiety cuz for example sometimes when ppl try to be nice and talk to me i don’t even listen to them I’m just there in my mind like: “omg what should I say now? they r judging me/ they think I’m weird” and all stuff like that and bc of that i try to end the conversation really fast by just answering “yes/no” or anyway quick answers so I’m pretty sure lots of ppl I know think I’m a “snob” type of person or smth like that ....I hate this so much bruh why can’t I just be normal ..I care so much of what ppl think of me it’s insane like even when I’m walking on the street I feel like everyone’s judging me so I usually focus on smth(on my phone or my shoes or anything)trying not to look uncomfortable but I just end up looking even more weird and just awkward
I never raise my hand during class and really have to do presentations apart with only the teacher and only can properly talk to my best friends and close family, I even feel uncomfortable around them sometimes, especially when I have a sleepover I just wanna go home because it's just too much social interaction for me. I just wish I were invisible so no one would notice me or talk to me because I really cannot stand that. Also I cannot order something or talk to the phone because I get a panic attack. My parents just tell me that I need to get over it and 'just talk and make new friends' but I just really cannot do that. I have a stuttering problem and even when I don't stutter that much I would do anything to avoid social interaction. Do you think I have social anxiety?
Social anxiety have ruined my life...
When im at home im not scare i can get as loud as i can do whatever i want to do , but when i go out in public my mouth start to zip. My feet start to shake. In i start to feel more more scared. Wtf❗
Ok i come and go from psicology videos and i am always searching a nadme and im like "i am this" and later "i am that" but when a video differentiates two thing i see it better. I dont have any mental issue, im just akward, thanks girl!
I started my second job now. I hate this one co-worker of mine. He keeps telling me to speak up because if not i might get crazy or my saliva will be a waste. It annoys me so much. Why can't he leave me alone. I am still adjusting in my new situation.
I can't diagnose myself. But i feel like no one like me. I'm scared to participate to discussion, and i messed up really bad in most of teamworks. That led me to have feeling like everyone hate me, they're mad with me although it's all over long ago. I know i'm overthinking but *i just can't help it.*
I only have a few trusted friend, but i also think that they don't like me cause of many reasons.
When i arrive at my college the first thing that i do is to go to the restroom, stand in front of the mirror and double checked my appearance.
I'm not bragging but i'm actually smart. But if the college teacher throw any question on us, and *even if i know the answer,* i can't bring myself to answer it. I will over check my answer and force my mouth to say it. But my heart will start racing, my breathing goes fast, my mouth locked and my body'll start shaking a little. And then someone will answer it instead and that got me really regret and angry with myself.
I feel tired 24/7 even if i've slept *far too much.*
And the list goes on like other people in this comment section. What am i suppose to do? Today when i was about to sleep (almost fall asleep, i could barely maintain my consciousness), suddenly i just couldn't breath. It was really frightening i thought i'm dying. I was thinking if i don't breath rn i'll die. And i forced myself to breath and i able to calm down after that, and slept, with nightmares.
Really, what am i suppose to do? What exactly happened to me?
I avoid talking to anyone that's not my girlfriend of 3 years. That includes my best friend of 5 years, my brother and my parents. I never go to parties people invite and never go to a friends house unless its my girlfriends friend also, in which ill tag along if its for a specific purpouse. Idk I just feel insecure talking to people and thinking everything that I do is making everyone around me not like me. Ive gotten good at small talk and socializing over the past few years, but unless youre socializing with a wall, you usually need people to socialize with. And fuck people
I hate when I go to school and I go to class, walking in the hallways I feel so awkward, and I always think people are looking at me and judging me. It’s awful, I wish I could be more confident like other people. Also whenever I’m in class, I get so anxious and I flinch Bc of this. It’s so weird but I feel like I have social anxiety only in a one specific place, and that’s school. At home, I’m normal and I can talk to my family easily cause I’m really close to them. But then when school comes, my anxiety is worse. Idk why that happens does that happen to anyone else too?
One sure way to overcome it is remembering that nobody is thinking of you or judging you from a distance. People tend to worry only about themselves and once you realize this, massive clarity ensues and gives you piece of mind.
hey when I see Someone I get a strong panic attack ..
I cant talk normally
Same happens when I talk to a stranger... I way I talk changes
I act so shy
But I suddenly become extrovert when I talk to close ones
Alright People in the comments i need to know if im shy or have social anexity i believe i have social anexity but i wanna hear from yall
Okay soooo i panic whenever someone talks to me at school...i have panic attacks about going to school in the morning and it leads to me missing alot of days...i hate going into stores bc i think that people are judging me....i hateeee when poeple try to call me on the phone i freak out.....i over think things alot and it makes me avoid certain things like relationship,going places,doing things i love as a 14 year old.......okay so yall go ahead and say what yall think
Ok here’s the thing... I don’t think I’m shy. But I do think I kind of a bit of social anxiety.
The thing is I’m extremely outgoing with my close friends and most of my family. But walking on the school grounds and walking on the street, I automically stick my head in my phone as to not appear “lonely” - I genuinely believe that every person I pass by in the street is judging me for some reason or another. With my family it’s also extremely difficult for me to express emotion or express any problems I may have.
At school I’ll never raise my hand, and I’ll never ask to go to the toilet because my mind thinks that every time I speak everyone’s judging me. Honestly I feel like every single person judges me. Even though they probably don’t.
I take surf lessons. One day, I forgot my wetsuit. So I had to go up to one of the teachers and ask for one. I was so scared of going up to them and asking them for one, that I said to my mum “ no no”. This carried on for a good half an hour with my mum pulling at me, trying to go and get myself a wetsuit. I couldn’t bring myself to do it.
I know I'm not shy. My problem with the social anxiety is the fear of being judged. Sometimes I can't speak with someone, like a shy person, but usually I do it, and the fear of judgement often makes me misspell words, say nonsense things or simply over analyzing that conversation later, concluding that the person probably thinks that I'm an insane freak
I will avoid any social situations. I stopped going to my college classes because I was afraid of what people may think of me. This anxiety has completely taken over my life. I started meds to help with it and I feel a lil better. But the thought of the therapy I will soon be starting freaks me out. Thoughts like what if they think I'm weird or ugly constantly race through my head. It's hard living with this anxiety and I'll do anything to make it go away.
My psychologist acually diagnosed me with social anxiety because I told her everything I do when I have to talk in front of class and when I get my food and I talk really low and don't even make the slightest eye contact with people and when I have to talk in front of class my voice shakes and my hands shake and in a public restaurant i have to get really close for them to hear me or ny sister orders for me I even learned sign language so people don't talk to me
“How am i going to approach this person” “what should i say” “someones trying to talk to me just ignore them and walk on” “oh no a group of people i hope they ignore me” “that guy seems cool but what do i say to him?”
These are things I did when I was in public school:
- NEVER raised my hand. I always think that I'm so stupid and if the teacher called on me I would stutter a little and if I said the wrong answer I thought people would think I was dumb.
- I never liked it when people looked at me. Makes me uncomfortable.
- Whenever people who I just met or I don't know well talk to me, my heart starts racing, I don't make much eye contact, I stutter a little, I accidently jumble up my words sometimes, and I breathe kinda heavily.
- Now that I'm homeschooled, I have meetings with my teacher every week. I do NOT like seeing her. She is so nice and sweet, but, you know. I just want to stay home all day. I don't want to talk to anybody. Also, every week I go to a classroom with like 8 people in it and I do my work for 2 hours. I hate that even more. Everybody is really nice there, but I don't want to talk to them.
I've had this for almost my whole life. I'm 11. Am I just shy or do I have social anxiety?
So Yesterday i had to give a presantation in front of +/- 20 people , I was shaking and my hands were sweating. During the presentation i started crying bc everyone was looking at me. I have SAD for 4years now, I always talked with everyone but i’ve got bullied for 2years and I lost faith in people, I still have no faith in people. I’ve been dealing with depression, but nobody knows bc I’m scared to tell people and with there reactions would be. I would want to tell you so much more but my English isn’t my mother language and I’m not that good at it, and I also have dyslexic. Thank you for reading this and I’m sorry I bored you with my story.
I’m too scared to order at subway because I worry that I’ll annoy the worker when I’m telling them what I want in my sandwich or I’ll freak out and forget what I want? Idk I always like to have my order pre planned and laid out in my mind so that I don’t embarrass myself. Am I the only one that feels this type of way.
(Yes I have never eaten subway due to this stupid thought)
I don't know if I have social anxiety or I'm just shy cuz when ever there's attention on me I always turn red. When ever I want to talk to the teacher or get something in the front of the class I just feel awarded. The only time I'm comfortable is when I'm with friends. And it's also hard for me to social to ppl cuz I think that they think I'm weird not going to talk to me ever
I stopped spending the night at my friends house because when i said i would go over to her house the pressure would build up throughout the day and i wouldn't want to go over anymore but i was to scared to tell her i didnt want to go over to her house anymore and now i haven't spent the night at her house in almost 2 years and she always makes me feel so guilty when i dont go over there and when i try to tell her how I feel she bombards me with her problems it's great.
I don't even know where I fall in in terms of shyness vs. social anxiety. I wouldn't raise my hand, even if I know the answer. Sometimes I want to do it, but my body just doesn't comply... The last time I willingly raised my hand was at the beginning of the school year last year. It took a lot to do just one damn action. My mind was having a battle over whether I should raise my hand or not because everyone else was getting the question wrong. If I have a presentation, I would just prepare as best I can, try to push my anxiety away, then push through the presentation. Sometimes I stutter and feel incredibly nervous, other times I don't feel quite as nervous. Just recently, when we had to do a little introduction in class, I was getting nervous and shivering in my seat even though it wasn't that cold in the room. Then, when it was my turn, a sudden stillness just overcame me. I still stuttered and avoided making eye contact, but I didn't feel as nervous, and I stopped shivering.
Wondering why my mind's so complicated is like wondering what the purpose of life is. I've been going to counseling for a few months now, but I don't think the counselor's labelled me as having social anxiety, so we're just working on boosting my confidence and getting me to interact with others more. It's harder than it sounds, and I've made no progress whatsoever. I'm also withdrawn from my parents, and the only person I really talk to and get to be myself is with my sister. I know asking people on the internet is far from ideal, but I feel like my counselor isn't doing a good job of it either.
Last week I had an exam where I had to speak in front of a camera as well as three close friends and my teacher. Leading up to the exam, everyone told me I would be more comfortable after talking for a few minutes. I fully convinced myself I would be fine but as soon as I introduced myself, I began to shake so badly I thought I would drop my paper on the floor. My voice was shaky, I forgot what to say and I failed to make eye contact. As my presentation came to a close, my nerves became worse and when I sat back down afterwards, I almost had a panic attack but quickly urged myself to calm down for the sake of not making a fuss. This was my first proper experience with what I believe to be social anxiety because before hand I always knew I was shy but not to the point where I couldn’t talk in front of four people without almost crying.
In my new class everyone will say “I have social anxiety” as an excuse to not do certain presentations or whatever ... it bugs me so much because I actually do have social anxiety and have been struggling to live with it my whole life! And when they just use it and even mock the word it makes me feel idk invalidated in a way or as if I’m wrong idk..
Thank you for the great resources here. I had dealt with low self-esteem attacks, panic attacks, fear of busy places, and fear of intimacy for years. I became a hermit in my house. My family begged me to get help but I couldn't fathom talking to a stranger. Finally, I came across a social anxiety, panic attack reprograming set of videos. I can say with confidence now that I am at least 60% better. I can even get through major department stores without an attack incident. This helped https://bit.ly/2D4Mjg5
I´m 13 years old and I have Social Phobia and anxiety disorder and I try to live with it every day. I can't control it, so my psychologist helps me. It is really hard to live with it but I will do my best to get rid of it. Hope you understand my English haha. I'm from Sweden
I always feels tired and got headache around people. I never talk, just sit and watch they talking but it so painful to watch them. I just hope the time goes really fast and i can relieves myself. Is that social anxiety?
I'm not sure what end of the spectrum I fall in. I avoid social situations most of the time because when I'm in them I get stressed out about what to say and how I'm being perceived. I can barely focus on what others are saying because of all the worrying going on inside me or my mind just kind of blanks out. I will then find any excuse to leave. I'm lonely and losing hope for myself. I don't think I'm shy I think social situations produce a reaction in me that is unfavorable and prevents me from enjoying them.
I understand that there's a lot of people on here trying to know if they do have social anxiety. Ngl, I am one of them. I need help. Here are my symptoms:
1) I FREAK when ordering food. Went to a Chip shop and asked the guy, "excuse me." He didn't here and I panicked so I just said hey really loudly. I only went to the chip shop in the first place because my parents told me to and wouldn't take no for an answer.
2) I've had to slowly learn conversation.
3) I have to remember to make eye contact.
4) I have to physically FORCE myself to talk to someone new,
5) I write out my phone calls before I make them, and I've only done 3 phone calls in my life (I'm 15) and no one else can be listening when I do them.
6) in conversations, I always have to think really carefully about what I'm saying and how it comes across.
7) It makes me so scared being in large crowds.
8) I refuse to go in small shops (like a bakery) because they're just too small and I feel like I'm being judged and I'm too close to the till person. Does that make any sense!?
9) I find it so hard going to social events.
And yet, I love dancing so long as it's dark, no ones watching or I have someone to dance with. (My best friend (I only have 1))
10) I hate walking along main roads because I feel like everyone is watching.
11) I'm always conscious of What people are thinking of me.
12) I dip dyed my hair bright pink once and felt physically ill and a nervous wreck when I went to school with it, but I have since dyed my whole head pink and experienced those feelings on a lower level because I convinced myself to stuff people's opinions.
13) I cry when I have to go to a social event that I really don't want to go to. And will often spend time on the toilet before bigger social events.
I would SO appreciate any help you can offer, you don't even understand how helpful it would be to get a second opinion.
i remember going to an acquaintances party like two years ago. i knew some people from highschool, and some people were strangers. i went alone and wasn't close at all with anyone, so i had no one to turn to. i gave the birthday girl flowers and ran around the party like chicken with its head cut off cause i didn't know what to do. i went to the bathroom several times and i just ended up leaving. i was soooo so uncomfortable
I can't go to shops alone or order stuff alone it just gets awkward for me and I can't pronounce stuff right half of the time. Also when I have to talk to people I don't know I might get a mental break down and its just weird and alward for me.
I don't have social anxiety and was curious about what this subject is. Anyone who has this should just not think about the next social happening. Be spontaneous more often. Thinking too much hinders fun talks. Being spontaneous and not think about the situation will help you grow. No one will hate you if you make a mistake, if they do they are not even worth your emotions. It makes me sad seeing people not go on with life or that they cannot do what they want because something hinders them. Another recommendation besides not thinking too much and being more spontaneous is working in retail, hospitality and customer service. Like work in the retail as a side job or student job. I disliked the phone when I was a kid because I couldnt see the other person and didnt know how to react but doing it more often made me get used to not knowing who the other person is and how they look like. Also be patient, dont give up when you dont see immediate results. Good luck!
Quick story: so ummm In my 9th grade year when second semester started I missed the first day. My geography teacher gave out a project and he kept saying it was two test grades. I was so afraid to say that I wasn’t there to get it so I ended up not doing it and getting two major F’s. Then I had an internal conflict for a month beating myself up and uhhh yeah... I don’t really know if that goes into shyness or social anxiety
I think thatd be social anxiety. You should stand up for yourself and not accept those 2 F's. Between choosing not to say or say it is obvious which you shouldve chosen. But this has happened already so dont be harsh to yourself too much. Just see it as a point for improvement and learn from it
Im scared to even start conversations with my relatives back in india whenever I came to visit them from canada. Id sit in one cormer and not say anything and they'd think I didnt know hindi since I acted like I didnt know what their saying but they didnt get I am trying to avoid talking to them CAUSE I CANT LIKE WHYS IT SO FUCKINGJSJS. When I try to talk with kids it just doesnt work out and my cousins my same age talk non stop and then im just their nodding my head like whys my life like this.
I think i'm right in the middle, where it's not exactly social anxiety, but not just shyness either, because while i do avoid some social situations i usually just go with it. But when i do go with it i'm constantly thinking of what people think of me and if i'm alone (i would probably not go if i'm alone tbh) i will not talk to anybody. At all. I just. No
But i can be really outgoing if i'm with some friends, and my thoughts go like this: "if i'm rejected or i do something awkward i can just laugh it off with my friend like 'that was so awkward holy shit' and then everything will be fine" which helps a lot
I might overthink everything i've done afterwards though *shrug *
Like this one time i wanted to break off a verbal fight like the girls were really mad at eachother and i just walked up to them (one if my friends was there too) and i just said "this fight is going nowhere please stop it's not helping any of you" and the girl said that it' not my business and i still think about it like damn it really wasn't why did i talk to them they probably think i'm weird and annoying ha ha hahah :DDD
i know i’m super late to this video but i don’t know if i have social anxiety or not. you tell me please !! i was suppose to hang out with this guy and we had plans for about a week. during this week i was so nervous and couldn’t stop think about it and whenever i thought about it my heart would race and it felt like there was something in my throat. i ended up canceling the day before because i was so nervous. i can’t talk in front of new people and even ordering food scares me and makes my heart race. idk if i’m just shy maybe? i was never like this before i use to be very outgoing and talkative. idk
I think I have social anxiety and it's really scary. I just started secondary school and I am small and Asian. This makes it so hard because I know people are judging me, I would be walking to my next class then a group of 14-16 year olds will walk past me silently then once they have walked past they will start laughing their heads off. It's also so stressful in The changing rooms for PE. It's already bad talking to people but then I have to take my clothes off in front of them!
For me if you don't start a conversation it won't happen. It takes me an hour to order over the phone. If I order out and they something out of the script in my head and begin to panic all while trying not to show I'm panicking. I hate reading out loud cause I didn't practice the right tone of voice to use. I rather text you then talk on the phone cause with text I can always go back before pressing send. On two occasions I saw these two really sexy guys and bc I wanted to talk to them I ran away from them. I think everyone is watching me and judging me from the splash of hazel hair on my head to the speck on my shoe lace. Social anxiety is something that determines every thing I do when it comes to human interaction. It sucks but at least I'm not dead.
Whenever i get invited to something social I either make up an excuse not to go or my mom makes me go or I'm just already comfortable with those people. For inatance just going to school makes me feel nauseous but it's gotten better since when it started because my friend distracts me from it. Also when I'm with my friends depending on who they are and where we are it boosts my confidence a bit. My parents look down on me for being shy and introverted 😢
I was always a shy kid, I used to have many friends when I was a kid but it got harder to make friends in grade 6 but I wasn’t socially anxious yet. It was 8th grade that ruined me, when people started judging every single detail about me and point out my flaws in front of me, telling me to get rid of them or fix them. That’s when I became socially anxious, I started to feel terrible, ugly, worthless, disgusting and imperfect. I started trying to be like others so I can be “perfect” I started to become extremely self conscious. I still am, but I’m trying to accept myself. It just makes me sad that some people had the actual guts to tell me to fix myself, to tell me that I’m ugly in every way. Before all those comments, I used to love and accept compliments, I believed them and felt great about myself. But after what those people said about me, I couldn’t even believe a compliment, I just considered it as an act of kindness that is just fake words coming out of someone’s mouth to please me. I’m still like that, I wish I had never met those people who scared me and made me like this. Oh how much I miss the days before those people came.
Soo, I'm just an introvert, I think. Yeah, my knees kinda get outta control when I have to do a speech but lately I found out I like talking in front of many people about a given topic when I like the topic.
I don't speak much because my brain doesn't produce much to talk about. I hate gossiping or talking about the weather or a TV show or film (exept httyd). I like more deep conversations, I like talking about politics even with a stranger who doesn't have my opinion.
And yeah, I get nervous in new situations, but who doesn't? I just try to get in that situation a bit more often to get comfortable with it.
I definitely have Social Anxiety and it has gotten worse, I can’t even talk to my own friends some times, when it’s time to show in class I get so scared I start to shake, stomach hurts, and etc but I have no way to escape from it. 😳
Ok With Social Anxiety Is When You Think Everybody Hates You For Doing The Slightest Things Which I Suffer Through
With BEing Shy Ur Just In A Brand New World And You Think You Dont Get That Much So You Dont Fit In Which Is NOT EVEN CLOSE to social anxiety
i think i’m more shy than having social anxiety, but i always get mad when people say i’m shy, it’s like they make it worse, bringing attention to it like what good will it do to point it out? labeling me, putting me into a box. also I don’t think i’m the only one in class yet for some reason i’m always the target
like just because I don’t want to answer a teacher’s question doesn’t mean it’s out of shyness when the rest of the class is quite too
Also all anxiety is not social like bunny on here she has anxiety but it’s not social and people regularly ask her in her comments how she can vlog in public but has anxiety she has said many times cuz it’s not social
Since, like, everyone is talking about their social anxieties and whatnot, I guess I'll do it too to feel a lil' better.
(warning: sorta long? lol)
I feel like I'm my own worst critic. After any presentation I do, my mind fills with thoughts of what I could or shouldn't have done. I go over every little detail that I did in my head and get more and more embarrased of what I did.
I've had this problem since Elementary. Whenever I go in front of a class or large group, My hands start to shake and my body just fidgets around. Whatever words that come through my dry mouth become jumbled sentences that I repeat out loud 'til I can get it right. I can feel my face becoming warm and everyone's judgemental eyes on me.
Suddenly, I feel like I can hear every single thing that happens in the classroom. Every sniff a person takes, a chuckle, a whisper, just anything. I become so focused on everyone else's thoughts of me and stares, I end up mumbling like an idiot and not being able to focus correctly.
It's like when I'm up there, center attention, I can feel their second-hand embarrasment for me and amusement.
Whenever I'm with a person I'm comfortable with, words come much easier to me. I don't care about how I appear or the mistakes I make, but somehow, I care waaay too much about strangers I don't even know. Well, not really strangers, but classmates that I technically have to 'live' with throughout the school years. It's much easier for me to embarrass myself in front of strangers than people I'll have to see for 4 years straight.
I feel like schools really do boil up anxieties and depression in people. It's the kids there. It really is like being in the wilderness and feeling like the bottom of the food chain. Everyone's in their packs and whatnot.
People by nature are judgemental, and I can understand that because everyone is. I'm just too caught up in everyone's opinions of me. It makes me nauseous.
I tell myself I shouldn't care about it, and that I'll forget these people in due time when I'm older, but it never really works. I relive my memories way to much, I mean- I still remember my horrible presentation from 3rd grade and now I'm in 11th.
Anyways, I got a lil' presentation coming up soon, hopefully I can speak when I'm standing up there. :) It's a rather large class, and I'm hoping that there is a possibility of me skipping it even if I know I shouldn't.
I'm 31 and this shit still affects me. I rehearse what I'm going go say in my heas before making phone calls or talking to someone new in person otherwise my mind blanks out and my speech slows down and I begin to stutter.
I don’t know what this is but
I’m afraid to think in class?
Hear me out
If the class is silent I will completely shut off my thought process.
This has caused me failing many tests in fear I will make too much noise by simply thinking. It’s annoying as hell.
Also. Going out in public is hell.
Like walking outside is fine, waving to my neighbors and people I know
But if I go out to restaurants I physically cannot speak
My dad yells at me
It doesn’t help that we go out to eat literally every damn day because we don’t have a bunch of food a home.
Common things I hear
“Oh JUST get over it!” “You weirdo!” “Why are you so scared?” “This isn’t YOU!” “Stop it! You are being rude!”
Please help? My mom and dad just think it’s shyness but it’s getting serious now and I want to see someone
I think I mabey mabey MABEY have social phopia, but it can still be that Im shy.
I hate to go some where by my self because I hate all attention!!! I dont talk much eather so I dont have many friends UwU
Can someone reply and help???