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Shy vs. Social Anxiety

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Cristen highlights five significant differences between shyness and social anxiety, or social phobia. Share this on Facebook: http://on.fb.me/16kQO09 Share this on Twitter: http://ctt.ec/e_Vut Subscribe: http://bit.ly/1l8JXv3 On the web: http://www.stuffmomnevertoldyou.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/momstuffpodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StuffMomNeverToldYou Google+: http://bit.ly/1kNchOQ Tumblr: http://stuffmomnevertoldyou.tumblr.com/ Instagram: http://instagram.com/stuffmomnevertoldyou# Sources: http://www.nimh.nih.gov/news/science-news/2011/national-survey-dispels-notion-that-social-phobia-is-the-same-as-shyness.shtml http://thedianerehmshow.org/shows/2011-08-09/shyness-and-social-anxiety http://psychfaculty.gmu.edu/kashdan/publications/Kashdan%20Mcknight%20%282010%29%20The%20Darker%20Side%20of%20Social%20Anxiety%20Curr%20Dir%20Psy%20Sci.pdf http://www.nejm.org/doi/full/10.1056/NEJMbkrev59108 http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19028075 Join Cristen to get down to the business of being a woman and all the Stuff Mom Never Told You about bodies, boys and the female brain.
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iLyddz (3 hours ago)
For me, the big difference is: shyness is a personality trait, social anxiety is a mental health condition. For me personally, I was confident growing up and talked to anyone. I developed social anxiety after being bullied by 'close' friends, more often than not attacking my personality (I was too honest so that made me b*tchy, etc.). That caused me to stop talking to new people because I was afraid they'd think I was cruel or a bad person. It caused me to panic when talking to people I was close to in case they thought those things too. Let off of my social anxiety leash? I enjoy people and talking - albeit, from an introverts perspective. But social anxiety has caused my social life to become incredibly sheltered and for my personal experience, that's the difference between shyness and social anxiety.
hEy sToB iT !! (1 day ago)
I hate when think being shy and having anxiety is the same thing🙄
Cindy KNOWS (2 days ago)
Oh god.. I still dont know if im just shy or socially anxious, but I am gonna take a theater class. Wish me luck..
Zipa stewards (3 days ago)
It’s weird for me because I am quiet and shy so when I eventually do talk everyone just stares at me and like the room goes quiet
DJ Carver (3 days ago)
I finally had made it. Months and months of mental and physical torture. Months of me tearing myself down. Building up walls so no one could hurt me or reject me or judge me. Months of pretending I didn’t care what people thought. Months of masking my true feelings. Now I was free from all of that. Of course I had tried every now and then to overcome my fear but it just had too much power over me. I had been hurt. Traumatized. Being told by certain people that I wasn’t good enough. That I wasn’t pretty enough. “You have something on your face! Oh my god sneakers with a dress? You’ll never be as popular as me!” Those words. The things people said. All of that lead me to create something inside me. I created myself something that I thought would save me from those painful words. Those painful looks. Those painful times. That thing that I created. It changed me. What used to be a fun loving, crazy, and friendly girl turned into a cut off, antisocial girl. A girl that never smiled. A girl that never talked to anyone or laughed. A girl that forgot who she really was. A girl that had hidden her true self deep within her as a defense mechanism. That person that I created. I hate it. I wish I could get rid of it but I can’t. It took control of me. It controlled every single aspect of my life. But I was so busy building walls and setting up gates and guards to protect myself that I didn’t realize what was happening to me. I didn’t realize what that thing that I had created was starting to take over me. You want to go make new friends? Too bad! They are going to reject you! They are going to hurt you! Your not good enough for them! You’ll never be enough! You don’t look good! You have stuff on your face! Your glasses make your eyebrows look too big like a unibrow! Want to speak up in class? No! No one wants to hear what you have to say! No one cares about your opinion! No one will agree with you! That, that THING, it pushed away all of my friends, my family, my hobbies. I used to play soccer, basketball. I used to play outside! I used to be FREE but no more. According to my social anxiety being myself will only end in pain.
Gabriela Salas (3 days ago)
for me even talking to my family is hard. when i’m talking to someone i constantly think about how i’m going to respond, how i look while they’re talking to me and that tends to make the person talking to me awkward and it makes me feel even worse because they don’t see the real me. having anxiety is like having a wall in front of me. when i have a thought, a joke or anything it’s like my mouth doesn’t allow me to say it and i just stand there silently :( and i’m really a funny outgoing person deep down but this mental illness really doesn’t allow me to be my true self because i’m constantly thinking of how OTHERS are going to react or think of me. and i often seek validation from others. i’m tired of this illness and i just need to push through.
Luaxon (3 days ago)
Does anyone else with social anxiety feel like they're self-centered (or is it just me)? I rarely have a conversation with others, it's usually just small talk, so I use all of that social energy by talking to myself... I don't know what to talk about with other people, so I feel like it's easier to talk about myself.
Daincus (4 days ago)
I don't know if I have social anxiety or not. I'll share a few experiences and common moments that I have to deal with regularly. 1. I have a class where I know absolutely no one and by god it's a practical subject ): I've never finished a project within said class because I'm too scared to A. Get up because I'm afraid people will judge or B. Too scared to asked the teacher for help. I remember one instance where I was surrounded by a bunch people who were all talking and laughing and I ended up having a full clown panic attack for an hour before anyone took notice. 2. If I'm at a shop I would get my friends to order for me as I'm WAY too scared to order for myself. (This one is really getting to me) 3. I don't do sports because I'm afraid my shyness/social anxiety will act up and make me look awkward, so I avoid doing sports at all costs. I'm in need for exercise because the school year is out and athletics continues when school starts again. Could anyone tell me if I have social anxiety or not? It would be much appreciated
Igor Sidelkovsky (5 days ago)
hey ,if anyone else wants to uncover how to overcome shyness in school try Renkarter Anxiety Method Report (just google it ) ? Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my mate got excellent success with it.
Jdburko Gaming (6 days ago)
I go to enrichment (it’s a school for gifted kids) once a week because I’m pretty smart myself. At this point though I am probably gonna stop going because every year we have to do 2 or 3 presentations and each one stresses me out a lot. I get sick the day before and when I am presenting I am sweating dizzy dry mouth and I generally feel like my mind is separated from my body when I present. As much as I fear getting judged for ‘dropping out’ of enrichment I just hope I am insignificant enough that no one notices. I’m 13 now and I am only now starting to go to grocery stores more and I avoid any interaction outside of interacting with the cashier. I do not like talking to strangers in public. I don’t think I can ever become a cashier in my teenage years if I can’t even buy thinks without stressing out.
My fish Drowned (8 days ago)
I have social Anxiety and scopophobia so whenever the teacher calls on me i honestly feel like breaking down and crying
Sophie M (8 days ago)
I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety. I panic over having to face a social situation or when I know I'm about to see a bunch of people. I almost cry just because I think someone's watching me, when I drop my pencil in front of the class, turn in a paper to the tray, or dump my trash at lunch and whenever I'm on the bus with many loud people. My heart beats very fast like I've just ran a mile and I feel like I can't breathe. How I deal with it is that I come to people who are willing to talk to me and understand. People like counselors and friends. People I trust. I also talk to an Anxiety Crisis Line, breathing exercises, and things in my mind to try and occupy myself. Just know though that the methods may not always work, but it can for the most part. I've only had it for a few months and I hope and think that it can get easier and better.
Maria Ruiz (11 days ago)
At school i feel like people are always judging. This one time our school band was going to main event and i was really excited for laser tag. I didnt know where the line was and for an entire 4 hours i sat on a bench using my phone instead. I was too scared to even ask my friends
Maria Ruiz (11 days ago)
My friend asked me after why i didnt go to play laser tag and i told her i didnt know where the line was and she told me where it was then she asked me why i didnt ask her before . She simply didnt understand why because she stopped talking to me and said after about a week to learn to freakin ask Try when you have severe social anxiety
Bang PD Nim Is a god (12 days ago)
I hate having social anxiety. Honestly it’s a pain in the butt. My friends just think of me as really shy and don’t understand what really goes on in my head.
zaiyana karim (14 days ago)
Does anyone else struggle even walking the hallway at school, my tummy hurts and i have to pinch myself to calm down
imaginarylilia (16 days ago)
*"I don't need friends. They disappoint me"*
Екатерина К (18 days ago)
As for me, the only way to overcome social anxiety is not to take social situations too seriously. Treat them mostly like a game which you should play. Ordinary people just don't pay so much attention to such events like small talks and hangs out. Although it is not easy to deal with social anxiety, one still can try to overcome it by recollecting some childhood memories that make one feel relaxed and happy. I often try to have the same state of mind which I had when I was a child. It helps a lot. I can't just walk and observe the nature around me, enjoying and not suffering from it. Try to imagine that this situation is going on with some other people and you are just watching them from the side. You are like a spectator. And you don't have to take part in it if you don't want. Have a nice day!
Audrey the cat nerd (19 days ago)
Idk where I am on the can’t people scale, but today I went complete deer-in-the-headlights while in line to check out library books. AT THE LIBRARY, I’m a massive hecking nerd and I’m not even socially comfortable at a LIBRARY.
Jesse James (22 days ago)
I'm looking this up bc I was invited to an acquaintances sons 1 year old birthday party. I assumed everyone would be showering him with toys, so I sewed a fitted crib sheet, small pillow sham (with pillow inside) & a drawstring bag for car toys. I was wrapping it all up in a box when I started thinking, what if it's not good enough? What if they think it's stupid? He's 1 why would he want a crib sheet? I went to the party with my 3 year old boy. I got lost & was so frusterated I almost just went home. Soon I found the place though. We didn't know anyone, no one spoke to us, & my son was busy playing with toys. I found myself searching the room for something to do. I finally started thinking maybe I'll just go? I tried talking to the host but she didn't seem to want to talk to me. It was frustrating. Then I started thinking crap, how should I say I'm going to go? I decided just making a run for it with my toddler in tow would work best. When I was eating a man came up & introduced himself. He put his hand out to shake my hand but mine had food all over it so I told him. He fist pumped me. Then he lingered a moment & walked away. What an idiot! I should have asked how he knew the host of the party, that would've been a good conversation. I ended up leaving & I doubt I'll ever hang out with them again. Ahhhhh. Based on that little smidge, would I be shy or have S.A?
TD Q (22 days ago)
I struggle with this..It really is more than shy. It has become easy for me just to avoid social situations all together.. When I do have to interact socially I usually worry forever at how bad it went..
HelloEryn (22 days ago)
i don’t know if i’m just hella shy or have social anxiety. every time i’m talking to more than one person i talk really fast and try to hide behind my hair and i don’t know why. and then they can’t understand me and it sucks
Elizabeth Carter (22 days ago)
First time I answered the phone it was such a huge deal to who called, they were like "you talk!" And I then just handed the phone to my mom and didn't talk again for like a year...lol
FLOWER (24 days ago)
My goodness I am extroverted but big groups I shy am away. Also when I like someone it confuses them because I know everyone at the party but one I like I can't speak or engage in eye contact. In face my eyes water and my heat races. What should I do?
Nero Claudius (24 days ago)
I'm shy and Introverted/Asocial
Kawaii Jenevieve (25 days ago)
My best friend had social anxiety and I’m just sorta shy.
Işıl Pınar Evcimen (26 days ago)
I am not sure if I do in fact have social anxiety or just if I am just shy and I am exagerrating. I am 15 and I am unable buy stuff from shops when I am alone for most of the time. But after I do, I think of the sales person thinking about how embarrasing I acted and how ugly and ridiculous I looked. Since I was little, when something embarrasing happens in a movie, I freak out and A)scream (either vocal or silently) to the pillow(or any other object to swallow its effect) or B) get out of the room, running. I almost cried during a presentation on a subject in which I was confident about. I apologize for things that my friends think that I shouldn't apologize for, like I am going slow on a book that I am reading with my friend and she says that I can go faster when I thought I was waiting for her to finish. I avoid going out because I don't want to see people. My mom was concerned said we should call my psychologist. (Yes I do have one and I tried to do self harm once and tied a noose and told my friend to pull it when it was on my neck I laughed when I was out of breath) My friends think that I have it and one of them asked if I had it. I don't know please someone tell me.
Arekkusu's Shadow (26 days ago)
I do actually have severe social anxiety;-; Trust me, it's hard to live like this, especially when ur alone/without someone you know with you. I made a video talking about my social anxiety... Yea
מרים ביתן (27 days ago)
I also am jealous of people who can talk freely and i sit there and just talk a bit.
Adaline Silverman (28 days ago)
The hardest thing about social anxiety is when you are always fighting your internal battles and inner conflict and trying to talk to people sometimes and everyone always tells you you're so quiet and you need to talk more and you're so boring, like seriously, I'm trying so hard stop trying to bring me down and break my soul goddamnit.
Azea (1 month ago)
I don't know if I have social anxiety. My mom said i'm just saying i have anxiety even tho i dont. But I'm scared to go outside. I get cared when i see someone. I'm scared to talk to someone im not closed with. Hell, i even don't talk to my relatives because i feel like they'll judge me. I just wanna sleep all day or even just watch youtube all day. I'm gonna go to school in 3 days and im so so so so scared. i'm gonna be in 7th grade so i needed to transfer to a new school. that means new friends, new stuff, new teachers, new everything. i dont want to go to school anymore because im so effing scared. i get low grades because i dont raise my hand but i just wish my teacher knows that im scared to raise my hand because my classmates might laugh at me when i say the wrong answer. my parents want me to go outside and do normal stuff but i always have an excuse. i say that im not feeling well and my head hurts even tho it doesnt. i even want to die. im tired of everything. im tired of being a freaking pussy cat. when i die, i wont feel anything and everything will be alright. people wont be able to judge me anymore. so, please tell me if i have anxiety or something because im so fucking tired of asking myself, "do i have anxiety or am i just sad or something" and im commenting this for a reason, don't judge me please.
Joon (1 month ago)
I avoid everything
Diana Rojo-Jewell (1 month ago)
I'm very social and I enjoy meeting new, interesting people, but I hate talking to people because my brain is like perpetually yelling at me that I'm doing everything wrong and am being super boring. Like I do the things and then regret being alive while doing them and afterwards. So I don't have anxiety (anymore; I used to and it was horribleeeeee because everything she's saying about the social anxiety used to be me during late middle school and early high school) but I just am suffering internally sometimes while pushing through and sometimes having a good time and making new friends
Hehheeh Skkdkdksk (1 month ago)
lmao so I always get so freaked out when we have a substitute and they do attendance. I usually spend 5 solid minutes practicing saying “here” in my head and clearing my throat low key (I don’t understand how people are comfortable clearing their throat just out loud). I remember one time I was so focused on practicing so I don’t sound stupid , that I didn’t hear her say my name. Someone went to tap my shoulder and they got all scared because I was shaking. Long story short I went home early. lol just another time I made things much worse than they should’ve been.
Pastelicx (1 month ago)
Is it bad that I worry for the exam we’ll have in 10th grade? I’m currently an 8th grader and I believe my anxiety is getting even worse, I’m talking to some sort of therapist at my school but she doesn’t know of me worrying about that. An the exam will be one where you are with a person you’ve never met and you’re supposed to speak and explain the subject. I honestly think I’ll have an anxiety attack. I am not diagnosed yet but, she tells me it must be. I have constantly anxiety attacks in social situations such as walking down the hallway where there are a lot of people, being in groups, ect. I ant handle people looking at me while I eat or do anything. I’m mostly alone at school, but I do have two friends, my best friend has been diagnosed with very severe depression and she’s almost never at school. The other friend is one I’ve known for about 3 weeks and I’m still terribly uncomfortable with being with her. I panic way too easily and I always overthink highly, I have very low selfesteem and I’ve been shy my entire life. I always find something to worry and stress about. My chest is also always tight no matter what. It’s at the point of hurting when I’m excessively worrying. It feels like I can’t breathe at times because of it. I wanted to cut when I thought I go an F on my midterm, I just hated myself so freaking much. I do scratch my wrist and hurt myself by forcing myself to do things that will make me feel pain. I’ve never taken care of myself and I’ve always but others before me such as my boyfriend and everyone around me. I constantly feel numb and sad. At times I feel suicidal and just want to end it all. My mind is terrible, I’ve not eaten today and it’s 13:58. The hunger is nice since I felt like it’s better than being not underweight again, the lowest I’ve been the past two months is 48kg and I’m 5’7. I want and need to be underweight again, I’m now 53kg. I can’t bear my thoughts so I’ll just stop eating as much even though I eat very little. I’d rather be hella underweight than normal, it feels good when I have hardly eaten since I don’t have to worry. Infact I am skinny and I want to be skinnier because I feel fat. My mind is telling me it’s a good thing and it makes me feel happy. I am an energetic and joyful person but when I’m alone I’m just nothing and broken and sad and numb. I love being alone to escape from socializing but at the same time I’ll be alone with my toxic thoughts. I constantly feel tired, not motivated for anything and I have no interest in anything anymore, my only hobby is art and illustration but I have a terrible art block so idk what to do besides being in my bed all day crying and doing nothing. I’m being called behind my back both a loser and a nerd but there must be much more, some have even talked about my looks when they thought I wasn’t listening. When I asked my best friend to ask the teacher for something for me she said no and told me it wasn’t that hard, she didn’t know how I felt at that time, she constantly pushed me to do such which left me to get an anxiety attack I believe or I lost all my self esteem and felt so freaking terrible. I tell myself I’m not good enough, no matter how hard I try I’m never good enough. My mom always said that I should be the best and do the best and study so hard. I’m a disappointment, I’m not worth it, I’m too scared for this world, no one cares, I’m just an idiot no one likes, I always put on a smile to pretend I’m happy. I’m only happy with my boyfriend, but I’m not good enough to help him defeat his problems, I can’t do anything, but he’s the light in my life, he’s all I need, why does he have to be so many miles away, why so long, why 3000 miles, why? I just need him in my arms to so all my worries and fears go away from that moment, maybe even forever. I can’t even shop without showing so many psychical symptoms, I feel drained out just after being at one store, it’s like my body is burning me, making me stutter, blush, shake, twitch, hate myself, making my heart rate increase like crazy, making me panic, everything. At times I even make myself sick so I can stay home instead of having to worry and panic. Is there more to this than social anxiety?
Vanessa Smith (1 month ago)
Has anyone else noticed the white fuzz in her hair?! On the left side?!?
Augie Zinman (1 month ago)
When I talk with my close friends, I'm not shy whatsoever. In fact, we're pretty loud and obnoxious when we're together. When I talk to my not so close friends, I close up a little bit and defiantly don't talk as much, but I still talk. When I'm with people I know but are not friends with (mostly at school), I almost completely close up and don't talk unless I have to, unless I come up with different things to say and say them at the appropriate time. People who aren't my friends think that I am super shy and serious or something but I can't help it D:
Chloe Kanye (1 month ago)
I'm naturally a very quiet and shy person.
Is it just me that gets extremely anxious amd doesnt go to my local mall or grocery store because im afraid to see people I know or aquantencess? Like,I'll go to a mall out of town because its full of strangers and I dont risk humiliation if somethinf goes wrong (still pretty nervous) but not as nervous to where I rather stay in the care than to go in to walmart or my mall.
Erin (1 month ago)
kisses lol
Erin (1 month ago)
Pretty sure I have both. I can be warmed up a bit over time though. :)
Savie Animates (1 month ago)
I have social anexity- and sometimes even thinking about a social situation I have to attend attend leaves me in tears- my life has been rustiness by it and has caused serve depression and lose of current fri nds and future fri friends
yarixza mendoza (1 month ago)
I'm very shy at work and I've been there for 2 yrs now and when people say Oh she is so quiet it just pisses me off. nobody talks to me and it really gets to me sometimes I think ppl are talking about me..
1:15-2:02 faxxxxx
I. Hate. Phonecalls.
Ryan A (1 month ago)
What's worse shyness or social anxiety? I'm super shy & it affects me so much I can't even have friends :'( Everyone I know with social anxiety at least can socialize pretty well & make friends unlike a shy person
Kaylee Bush Grubbs (1 month ago)
Okay whenever i am talking to someone in my head i am like wow why did u say that , you’re stupid, she probably thinks you’re weird and I avoid people and i get anxious when i am walking and someone is walking far away from me and we get closer and whenever i am alone i cant really talk to people and also i hate change ( idk if that is apart of this or not but I decided to add it ) and adding on i hate being the center of attention like all those eyes on me. But whenever i am with my friends i am outgoing and can do a lot more and i feel better . I guess that can be shy but i really don’t know bc i suffer from anxiety .... can someone help me lol
*** JOY *** (1 month ago)
I'm too scared to ask for help... what should I do!?
Paula Deen (1 month ago)
im a recovering alcoholic. seeing all my friends and strangers has been so difficult. im uncomfortable around everyone
Baron (1 month ago)
I used to suffer severe social anxiety. My blood pressure went crazy and I sweat like crazy. With age it got better, but I still sweat at my hands in a room of people. I still got some anxiety, but I can resist it. I would not consider myself shy in all social contexts. I can look very comfortable, but yet some anxiety is still there.
ukelele boi (1 month ago)
Once, I vomited because I had to go to an art venue with my mum, and a man asked me where the main exhibition is.
Dallas Wilson (1 month ago)
Anyone else getting an eye twitch from the tiny fuzz piece in her hair
Btw can u please do a migraine video because I’m sick and tired of people saying they have migraines when they only have headaches
I never raise my hand in class and during parent teacher conferences all of my teachers said the same thing “she needs to participate more” I just want to be like “HAVE A DAY IN MY SHOES WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE EVERYONES GOING TO JUDGE YOU FOR WHAT YOU SAY!” but I can’t... (P.s I thought this over like 10 times 😬)
Y Bntz (1 month ago)
Sometimes i just pretend i didnt hear the phone when someone calls, I don’t like crowds and i get like stressed and i feel like the air is running out of my lungs lightly, i can’t even order sauce at a restaurant, i always have my earbuds on ‘cause it makes me feel isolated and it calms me.... and i need someone to confirm me its social anxiety ‘cause my mom and sister don’t believed me when I told them I have social anxiety, because i confirmed it from with tumblr and not with a psychologist... and now im not sure ‘cause i dont experience any symptoms. But once i almost start crying because i was too surrounded by people, i usually get in a bad mood when im in crowded places
Isabella Fellows (1 month ago)
I have social anxiety and have been diagnosed
Thomas Hannah (1 month ago)
Guess I’m a shy, social phobia guy😂
Pita Rogers (1 month ago)
I have anxiety because my family always talk about me like why i stay inside my room all the time or they say im fat and i tried starving myself but they found out but then they call me fattie and make fun of my anxiety kill me
Abby T (1 month ago)
If I have a conversation with someone or just do something so small as just say hi and I can’t stop thinking about it afterwards. Does that mean I have social anxiety or shyness?
Carolina Ruiz (1 month ago)
I’m actually both like I’m very shy and I have social anxiety
Got social anxiety
Victrola 1925 (1 month ago)
28 seconds in, she started singing and its already fucking cancerous
Victrola 1925 (1 month ago)
i can communicate with real people unlike you weirdos online
Roxxy's Daffodils :D (1 month ago)
One time I was in the car with my dad, he told me to call a family member, and I started to freak out and I said "how about if I text her instead?" And my father says "No, call her" "...." I didn't want to call the person so I just texted her 😂 my father got really mad and snatched my phone, Jesus I really hate when I have to call someone or someone calls me, my voice get really shaky;-;
Emma Gore (1 month ago)
I personally hate it when people try and say that they can’t do something and try and act like we’re on the same page when it comes to social things. At school when we’re in groups and have to pick someone to speak I try and tell them what will happen if I go up there and that I physically can’t do it, but they all just say how they can’t public speak either so I should just get over it. Little do they know that I go into the bathroom after that and throw up, hyperventilate, and ball my eyes out. Little does my church small group know that I haven’t been in three months because every time I go I come home and cry because it’s just mentally exhausting for me. Little do my friends know that I don’t go to summer camp because the thought of leaving my mom, who’s my security blanket, for a week and being around people who give me panic attacks is literally the worst thing I could ever imagine putting myself through. Little do my teachers know that when I’m not raising my hand it doesn’t mean that I don’t know the answer or aren’t paying attention, I physically can’t build up the emotional strength to get my hand up and say the answer that I know is right. Little do my parents know that forcing me to go to parties with kids my own age doesn’t actually pick me out of my box, if anything it shoved me deeper and deeper inside so I’m even more trapped. My friends and family don’t understand the differences between being shy and social anxiety, so I know I have to pick friends who are ok with me saying no when they ask to hang out. Little do the girls in small group know that when you text me I don’t ignore it, I just spend hours crafting how to say hi and eventually induce a full on panic attack. Little did my soccer coach know that before tryouts I was throwing up in the bathroom because I didn’t know how I would handle my friends making a higher team and having to partner up with anyone other than the friend I consider security blankets. I don’t think my one friend realizes that she means so much to me. Little does she know that I wait in the bathroom until she gets there to help me walk in the door at church. Little does she know I sit in the car with my mom trying to convince her to just take me home, knowing that my dad would yell at me for not going to church. Little do people know that my dog feels like the only one who understands me. When he wipes my tears away with his furry little head during panic attack sand just lays there in case I need to hug him he’s being the only one I can truly talk to without feeling judgement. Little do my parents know that praying just isn’t working for me anymore. Little do they know that all I want is for them to understand that I’m not just shy. Little do they know that when I have panic attacks at school I have a special playlist that tends to help calm me down. Little do they know that despite all their pushing I still love them deeply. Little does my mom know that when she lays in bed with me brushing my hair out of my face when I’m crying and telling her all about how small group was the even worse tonight that she is making me feel loved and heard, and I know so many other people have it worse.
Shia (1 month ago)
Why does she look familiar?
Liv B (1 month ago)
I hate that moment when I’m in PE and I have no friends in that class and the teacher says to get with a partner and everyone has a partner expect for u and ur just Awkwardly standing there.
Lil Gypsy (1 month ago)
I'm both
Uni munk (1 month ago)
I have both im just really good at hiding it
Juicy Jamie (1 month ago)
Oh and I avoid talking on the phone and I HATE to FaceTime or video chat because I feel like people can see how uncomfortable I am.
Juicy Jamie (1 month ago)
I have social anxiety and I really avoid going out at all cost. I absolutely hate being in public and usually when I have to go to a social setting I want to drink to help me relax. I literally feel like everyone is talking about me and I just want to be invisible.
I think I have social anxiety, but I put my hand up in class because I hate it when people get the answer wrong. I always bottle up my opinions because every time I have said them people give me dirty looks. Tbh people treat me like a doormat because I'm only known for my smartness and they use me to get answers and not do any workand I only speak in classrooms most of the time or with friends. Do I have social anxiety or am I just shy I'm really not sure.
victoria delgado (1 month ago)
when I was a kid I was very shy, I got bullied all through elementary school then in middle school and beginning of high school I developed social anxiety, at first i could handle going to school, but interacting with people was horrible especially since i didnt know what to talk about and i was already going through stuff at home; eventually I left the middle school in the middle of 8th grade and went into independent studies and after 3 years, when i was a sophomore, I started working on talking to people, i thought since it was independent studies i wouldn't be targeted and used so people could get attention until the person i was best friends with decided to say that i told her to kill herself after she had threatened to and i told her i'd be devastated if she did so i have been having to prove to people that it didnt happen all while fearing getting expelled and sent back to regular school. i proved to the principal that I didn't but now i have students coming up to me constantly and asking me and talking to me and i keep having to just run to a restroom and sit there for an hour or so so i dont freak out. originally when i was younger i jujst let people who said bad things about me do so, but now i've fought back so i know im not as weak as i was before but the idea of talking to people scares the hell out of me and makes me want to cry (even though i REALLY want to become a politician to fight for better education all over the world and for childrens rights); like the second i found out i could be getting sent back to normal school i curled into a ball shaking and crying just at the thought of being in a crowded room with people around my age; especially if there was females in that room. Women terrify me and i don't know why, they just absolutely terrify me, despite me being bisexual, im okay with seeing pictures of them, watching videos, talking over messaging with them, but the second i see them in person or hear them i get absolutely terrified and i want run and hide and never visit that place again
Sakura Najimi (1 month ago)
when i go to school people like look at me i feel like crying then going to the classroom is really scary then seating so scary teachers are so scary all people is so scary ;~; SOCIAL ANXIETY ;~;
I don’t really like meeting new people at all but once I start to talk to them and get to know them I can be quite talkative but wen talking in front of a large number of people I start to get anxious and even with just one person sometimes I’ll say some then I realize it might have been dumb then I will start over thinking like are they judging me? and even later that day or even latter in the week I will still think about it and it’s a million times worse with more people. I find it hard to say my order at a restaurant or fats food place or something. I also hate feeling with people and I have to be nice and try and understand them and it’s so annoying which isn’t really shyness just annoyance with certain situations. I’m also not good at making quiet and simple Decisions because I have to think of all the outcomes to make sure I don’t make a Decision I will regret and wen people tell em to hurry up my mind freezes and I can hardly make a decision at all.
jendeukie girl (1 month ago)
i think that i'm something in between
eliza eli (1 month ago)
I'm also not sure whether I have social anxiety or if I'm just very shy. I can't talk to most people... but only if I don't know them. I can speak with my close friends very easily but whenever there's someone else around I don't talk at all just because I'm sooo intimidated. I can not stand in a group because if I do i do not only not talk I also don't even know how I should stand properly and I get super nervous. Idk why. I prefer being alone just because I'm 24/7 afraid about what people think of me so much. And if a stranger asks me something I complety freeze and it takes a lot of time before I realize I have to talk back. I'm even afraid to just ask someone in the supermarket for help and that sucks alot.
Elise Lovegood (1 month ago)
I always think i was just shy , but some time ago i notice i have social anxiety , like i feel everyone in the place i'm is judent me , and every move i so is going to be judent ;-;
Average Wallflower (1 month ago)
I have been diagnosed with social anxiety and every time I have to talk to people I don’t know or am not comfortable with I feel so physically sick like I’m going to throw up. I get hot flashes and start sweating a lot and I stutter so much. I try to push through it but have canceled things a lot so I don’t have to deal with it. I also notice when I’m nervous I tend to scratch. Like my arm, my hand, even my neck I guess cause it gives me something to do? Even writing comments like this can be hard. I’ve written out so many comments and then have deleted them because I thought they sounded dumb. Don’t even get me started on phone calls. I absolutely hate it.
makeitsupersized (1 month ago)
I am 36 and I keep my phone on air plane mode. lol
SomePersonWhoComments (1 month ago)
I panic inside especially when I'm ordering or buying something. I tend to stutter a lot in a really quiet voice and my parents would be disappointed at me for not being able to speak up. The only people I feel comfortable around with is only 3 friends. That's it. Also, three of my friends are absolutely confident in almost everything. I don't even know why they befriended me. I'm really jealous of them. They can sing and speak loudly whenever they need to. I can't even talk without stuttering with a relative.
arya (1 month ago)
I have social anxiety and its really hard everybody says "why you're shy?" im in high school and social anxiety makes it really hard
Shy Otaku Player (1 month ago)
Being shy made me just stay at home all the time... Just leave if i'll go to school.
Brittany Subtractcock (1 month ago)
I just want to start off by saying THANK YOU for addressing the problem of anxiety bashing. I can’t stand seeing people fight over who has it worse when we are all dealing with something that we feel is holding us back. I am 22 years old with two kids and have not really left my house for over 5 years except to go to the doctors appointments. I have gone to a primary care doctor for my social anxiety and depression but stopped going recently because it’s always just “how are the pills working” and I’d rather have someone who has been trained on the stuff I’m having issues with. But even then the thought of going to a psychiatrist is terrifying. Opening up to someone and trying to explain how I feel and the possibility of crying, which I refuse to do in front of people. Social anxiety can be severely crippling and stand in your way of actually living. I wish more people would understand instead of trying to say to “just get out more” :/
Joelina Cuello (1 month ago)
LoL i use to get very shy. When i first started ordering pizza. It was like. Helooo its pizza company ME UMMM YESS pizza here now please Thankyou.
The non- Chosen One (1 month ago)
I have *S o c i a l A n x i e t y* I shake after a presentation I get butterflies talking to people I feel like *everyone* judges me.., *everyone* I have social anxiety.. I’m not just shy
I live for Momo (1 month ago)
I have a question is it social anxiety if every time I go to the mall I’m scared to see people from my school because I don’t want them to judge me or say that I look fat, my clothes are ugly or just basically feel like everyone is staring at me and judging me or when I’m in class and I move my leg and hear people laughing so I just move my leg back to the place it was cause I thought they were laughing at me when they didn’t even noticed I moved it or when I have to make a presentation and I learn it but when I go up to present I forget everything my hands become sweaty, I feel like I’m going to throw up, heart starts beating fast, feels like I’m running out of breathe and then I’m scared that I mess up and people are going to laugh at me and judge so then I start crying and have to leave the classroom or when I go out of my house feel the same symptoms like hands sweating and the ones I just said before or when someone from my class randomly text me and I start to freak out and when I get a phone call I just run away and don’t answer?
AtypicalWeirdo (2 months ago)
Um, I only answer the phone because my mom forces me to. I’m still bad at it. *cough* Autism Spectrum Disorder....?
LemonadeFreezer.com (2 months ago)
I am told a TON that I whisper when I’m in public situations.(like ordering food or introducing myself) I don’t really realize it until people tell me, so I think it is natural for me to be a bit shy. But, when I do something more public... my stomach hurts and my hands sweat. I realize that I usually don’t do things just cause I have to talk to people to do it. Is that shyness or social anxiety?
Mira Plasta (2 months ago)
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Caitlyn G (2 months ago)
I don't really think I'm shy nor have social anxiety, I'm very loud with my friends, and I love doing drama, like musicals, etc. but I always get really nervous when talking to like teachers, adults, or people I'm not friends with. My hands are always sweaty and I feel really awkward with small talk and never really know what to do with my hands. People say I don't look or talk awkwardly but I always feel extremely awkward when talking and I always feel people are judging me. Help I don't know what to do lol.
Archey no2 (2 months ago)
I get most really nervous leading upto a social situation and after. I also hate being ignored in situations like that, it makes me feel even more awkward. I will not go to events unless there are at least 2 very good friends of mine going to be there. HOWEVER, when with my friends I am very much the center of attention... Idk what's up with me...
Santo rosquilla (2 months ago)
I used to have severe social anxiety. Shit was terrible I was afraid of people coming too close to me because I was afraid they’d smell me even tho I showered 3 times a day. But now I’m all good after a year I’ve finally been freed
BubbleJetzz (2 months ago)
What if you have both?
Nataya Dawn (2 months ago)
This video is giving me anxiety just thinking about going to school tomorrow is making me have anxiety
Christina Makryllos (2 months ago)
Hate the fact that I can’t order my own freaking chicken nuggets.. I’m 15 and I haven’t been able to once in my life
Jynxiii ? (2 months ago)
I can't even post a YouTube comment without feeling judged, even on this video. Life's great :/
Jackie Scott (2 months ago)
....From the things I heard, I'm shy. So I prefer to stay in my bed than actually leaving the house and am only leaving it when I have to ( meeting friends, school, grocery shopping). Sometimes I even hate to go meet my friends though they are the best people I ever met. Big parties with only one person I know and overnight stay are a thing I absolutely avoid, when it comes to confessing feelings I avoid using the "L" words, also I'm every time unsure whether I should say hi when I meet an old classmate, when I have crushes and haven't been close to that person, I was not able to look into his face or even talk to him without stuttering or even talk to him at all; on the bus I always try to find a point where no people are because I hate meeting gazes; I prefer to stay alone, talking walks alone, dancing and singing alone . The only exercise I got was a month ago. Drama class, where I've been one of the best in acting ( I had it for 3 years and as a final we all took part in a theatre play ( I had the main role ). Acting is kind of fun for me because I can act as someone different) also meeting my parents friends is some of a challenge for me because I don't really like hugging people I'm not emotionally connected with and never know how I'm supposed to act. Answering calls and leaving the house is no problem for me though doing phone calls with people I don't know well is making me nervous every time.
rawrandomgirl (2 months ago)
I am shy, i tend to think everyone staring at me everytime i walk past by them (they do actually and idk whats wrong with me), everytime there is a bunch of girls who sit near me or standing near me and they laugh while looking at me (sometimes), i always feel like they were talking about me and laughing about me, i can't freely post my own selfie cuz i just felt really insecure about my appearance, i overthink, i think about what other think more than i imagine. Am i shy or do i have social anxiety?
rawrandomgirl (2 months ago)
I am shy, i tend to think everyone staring at me everytime i walk past by time (they do actually and idk whats wrong with me), everytime there is a bunch of girls who sit near me or standing near me and they laugh while looking at me (sometimes), i always feel like they were talking about me and laughing about me, i can't freely post my own selfie cuz i just felt really insecure about my appearance, i overthink, i think about what other think more than i imagine. Am i shy or do i have social anxiety?
Lili Angelina (2 months ago)
I just feel like loosing myself around people🤔

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