Research confirms that sudden, overwhelming desires to have babies -- aka 'baby fever' -- exists. And women are the ones who can catch it.
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It’s kinda odd cause I really hate children, but for some reason I have baby fever...I hate kids but I like babies. I’m only 16, yet I spend a lot of the time I’m on Youtube on watching gender reveal videos or baby clothes hauls. It’s so odd!
I didn’t used to have baby fever but ever since my parents have been nagging for a grand kid, it kinda started making me really have one. I’m 23 so I still want to enjoy my 20s a lil more but I also just want a baby already. But then I snap out of it and think about money and responsibilities.
Urban clementine Same but I’m 11 I’m not ready to have a baby and have a million reasons why I shouldn’t have kids. My neighbor just moved and I used to babysit her kids a lot she has a 1 year old a 3 year old and a four year old.
I've had baby fever since around July time, I've already got a little boy who is 2 and I want another one so bad, but my partner wants to wait 2 years so that we are more financially comfortable and I 100% agree with his decision, but it won't go away and it's so frustrating
Lol when I get baby fever I usually have dreams that I'm pregnant and I'll just go into this manic state of picking out names, things I'm going to do for them, etc. It's wild...for me the fever lasts between 1 week to a month but it usually comes back quickly. 😔😔
I'm 23 years old and I definitely have baby fever. I really want a baby. I get excited about baby clothes & stuff at stores, love babies & kids (I babysit). I even have thought about baby names in the event I get pregnant. I'm not trying at all & I take birth control & stuff plus my bf uses condoms, but lately I've been thinking that if I was to get pregnant anyway I'd be kinda happy even if it was hard. I know with my health history and what I know about female fertility that once I turn 30 my chances of getting a baby will go down a lot so hoping to get at least one before then. It's kinda stressful because I want to talk with my bf about this (we've been together more than 2 years and going great) but I have no idea how to bring this up without it coming out wrong. I don't want him to think I would lie about birth control or try to get pregnant intentionally without telling him. But it's difficult keeping this to myself
Kyler Girouard no it is not "bad" its just your hormones your turning into a woman !! but not advised.. stay in school no babies just yet.. ive had baby fever since i was 14 im almost 21 now. i got pregnant last year and i miscarried.. but it all happens for a reason i realize now im not financially stable enough for babies just yet
I wander if it's a thing for women to want to nurture everything. When I hear crying babies in the store I want to run and pick them up. It's not necessarily baby fever for me personally. Kristen do you know anything about that?
I have a bad back, so I'm sure that giving birth is off the table for me (that and my fucked up genetics). But I want to be a parent. Not ready yet, so me and my mate have settled for being pet parents for now.
I'm almost 17 an have baby fever bad :/ Ugh! I love babies, around them all the time, an practically raised other people's babies. However,my boyfriend doesn't want children. An I'm so young ! Help..... >_<
I'm younger than you and I have an aching case of baby fever. I am extremely stubborn, and before this happened I sworn off ever liking children, so I refuse to find someone to talk to. It's all I can ever think about. I don't even have a crush on anyone.
i swear im not stupid im promise im NOT gonna go out and get pregnant (i want to be married and get a college education first XD) but im almost 16 and im constantly thinking about starting a family( in the future)... help
I'm 19 and I don't want children until I'm at least 27. But I have horrible baby fever. If I see babies I start thinking about having them. I know I'm obviously not close to being too old for children so I think it's definitely the nurturing thing for some people, since me and my boyfriend are close to being together for 4 years. I feel like once you're close to getting married or you've been together for a while the thought of babies just gets too real lol.
It's real. I didn't experience "baby fever" with my first two kids. My husband and I planned our children and we had the first two according to that plan. With our third child, I was 29 years old and definately felt baby fever. I was crazy. My sister will be 29 this year and is starting to feel it too now.
Yea but if ya don't care & just like sex ya just knock up women & leave them. *cough black community
Or ya have so many *cough Mexican community that it doesn't matter.. Either religion or nature but taking care of a child & sacrificing EVERYTHING is something entirely different!
I'd cram my reluctance to have babies down to my negative experiences in life. Why would I want to bring another into this filthy nonsense?
Those having babies (of low IQ) don't have these thoughts. Fuck, why not? No thought to consequences, just fulfilling their biological imperative. We need to feel important. What else than to slam another of our kind grave-wards?
I dated a guy with baby fever, like he thought that he should already have been married with 2 kids. It really freaked me out because I was 19 and he was 21. Needless to say, we didn't work out. Around that time, it seemed like most of my friends, who were about the same age, all wanted to get married and have kids. I'm 23 now and have still never seen the appeal. I would rather have a career than a family right now.
I'm 29 and I'm actually fine with not having a baby. When I was like 18-23 I really wanted a baby really badly... Then I watched my friends have a bunch. Then the divorces, custody issues, child support, dads who bailed, sleepless nights, stress ect and um I'm good. If I meet someone who i love and trust to be in my life forever and we decide to have a baby, great, but if we decide not to, it's equally as great. I feel the same about marriage. Neither are a big deal to me. My family... Does not approve. Oh well, good thing it's me life and my decisions right? Lol
I have tried to get into relationship because "that's what normal people do" before.
I was pushing for something I wasn't genuinely up for. Somehow I don't feel alone without a partner, not having kids doesn't bother me any bit.
thank you +Stuff Mom Never Told You - HowStuffWorks For telling me that 22% or women have NEVER wanted to have a baby. I know now for the first time in my 31 years of being alive that I am NOT a strange oddity and that there are significant number of women who feel the same way as me. Not just the one odd ball or two.
I'd like to think humanity will end, not by global warming or a meteor hitting the earth, but because people just stop want to have kids.
We'll even see it coming, but people will be too busy with more important things, like marathoning though shows on Netflix, or working long hours to pay back college loans on the degree they're not using.
If as a male or female, you don't join in creating a baby, you're the first people in your direct lineage, since the dawn of humanity, not to procreate. Thousands and thousands of people passed the baton, and when it's handed to you, you say, no thanks.
It interests me how easy that "no thanks" has become for a growing number of people.
that is so true! I do have it with animals. I don't know why that is! but I guess I could think of a few things. I do believe the people that love to be surrounded by animals at all time, but are cautious of humans and anything human are the "creative introverts". they need a lot of time away from the crowd if you know what I mean. I just love the way animals work, I love their easy, predictable mindset, where the mindset of a baby is much more complex and scares me a bit. they will turn in to grown human beings and might turn out either good or bad or something in between. I think it scares me a little. It's an individual, not a pet. it's human, it's different. haha I'm not to good at explaining this am I..
well, that's my theory :)
+dddddangel What I find fascinating is most of the people I know who do not have the 'cute' reaction to human babies do still have it with non-human animals. Since the general idea is that these reactions to non-humans are a generalization of the human/human reaction, these cases speak to something strange and interesting going on there.
Cristen might not be interested in making babies, but as the movie Idiocracy points out, let babies from her means more freaks like me in future generations!
Yup, my armie of babies is coming to take over the world, should i ever figure out how to take levers and pulleys and gears and put one together.
"little, money grubbing babies!" yup. I do like that tradeoff is a consideration.. If I had one of the aforementioned baby's, I probably wouldn't be sitting on the couch on my laptop with a $12 tub of icecream. I know which lifestyle I prefer :P
I'm an almost 23 year old lesbian and I've had some bouts of baby fever. While I know I'm not ready to have a baby, I do know I want a baby one day. And that I'll have to potentially work a little harder to have one. But I raised my sister and she turned out well!
Fun fact: I'm a 20 year old twin with baby fever. When I see a baby in a restaurant I can't help but stare and I have an overwhelming desire to have one of my own, despite still being in school with no job and no partner. Nothing I rationalize can possibly stop the feeling. The interesting thing though is that my identical twin sister doesn't have it at all. She can make a crying baby smile with just a glance but has no urge to have her own. An interesting genetic quandary.
Nope. Never wanted kids and probably never will. Kids don't even become tolerable until, like, age 10. They're always sticky, they can't keep their germs to themselves, they're loud, selfish, they don't think before they act. Seriously, it's a whole lot of headaches and stress that I could live without. All the macaroni art in the world can't make up for that. I like my time, I like my money, I like my lifestyle and I like working. It always irks me when people tell me "Oh, it's a phase. You'll want them one day." Really? Cuz I haven't wanted kids in nearly 30 years of living. You're telling me a month-long stint where I _might_ want a kid is _not_ the phase in this situation? Yeah, sorry, I don't think I'll ever get it.
I had a plan (hahaha...ahem) to have kids around a certain age, maybe 25ish. The urge to have kids came sooner though. I wouldn't call it baby fever, just a feeling that welled up inside of me. When I think of baby fever I admit that I think of people who don't know what they're getting into and aren't even considering it. They're only considering the cuteness and the fact that others do it and it's expected of them. Things didn't work out with the person I was with at the time though and then about 7 years later going on 28 I was wondering if I actually wanted kids after all. Boom, I became pregnant without intending to. I'm not disappointed though, it was just a tough transition because I wasn't at all ready, not financially or emotionally. Now whether I have want to have more than one, that's up for debate.
Oh and I'm one of those people who was afraid I would be overly annoyed by my kid because other people's kids often annoy me. Nope, she's cool, but other kids still annoy me, lol. :)
So I'm 23, and I would get "baby fever" at least....once a year. Even in my teens. Come to think of it, it's happening a tad more than before because I have a partner (not married). My friends would always look at me weird and tease me when I would see baby things or see babies and just melt over them. It's so weird because when I'm around babies nowadays I'm soooo awkward around them than when I was younger. I just don't know what to do with them. Then they just stare at you when u smile and try to make them laugh.
I'm turning 31 next month, zero baby fever to report at this time. Honestly the thought never crossed my mind to have children. It only crosses my mind when people ask me when my husband and I are having children, and I'm always like, 'oh...uh I dunno never thought about it'. Because it's true. I never think about it. The only time I've ever had that urge is when I see Kate Middleton emerge from the hospital looking perfect with her perfect princess life and perfect royal babies lol but I think I just want her lifestyle...not kids haha
I definitely have baby fever and think it's biological. (The whole "nature vs nurture" debate is pretty outdated as we now know the two actually interact with each other.) I've never wanted to have biological children of my own, always wanted to adopt after establishing my career. Then about a year ago (I'm now 27), I started getting this urge and strong physical desire to be pregnant at the time in my cycle when I would ovulate if I wasn't on the pill. Totally weird and still freaks me out.
I just cannot wait for college to be done with so I can get on with med school so I can get my career on track, and get money in the bank to start my cute little family. I already have my fiancé, and we both agreed we won't get married until after college but all my friends and family are having babies and they are so irresistibly cute. Granted I don't live with the babies or have to spend money on them, but I want one. I think I just need a kitten or puppy instead to put all my love and energy into.
+Isabelle congratulations on being in law school and your partner for being in post grad school!!! Yes baby fever young in rough. However there is not much I can do about it since I am pretty sick, and I wouldn't want a baby now. But hopefully a few years from now I will be able to have babies(2) and be happy. Lol. I guess I could always start babysitting as a side to a side job lol.
+Kelsey Cate Totally in the same place, I'm in law school and my partner is in his post-grad. It's kind of hard to have so much school to get through because it does mean that you have to wait such a long time before you get to start the next chapter in your life. Catching baby fever young is rough!
i'm 28 and i've never had baby fever, to be honest babies and pregnancy really repulse me. i hate having to pretend to be excited when someone tells me they're pregnant or declining to hold a baby because it makes me feel really uncomfortable. everyone tells me that one day i'll feel differently but in all honesty i've always felt this way it makes me wonder if i'm some kind of freak.
Ya know I've been experiencing something similar to this in an abstract way. I've been on an IUD for about a year and have, for the most part, stopped having my period. For some weird reason... I actually kind of miss it. Which doesn't make any sense because I'm not currently trying to get pregnant or even sexually active so all it would be is an annoying inconvenience. An annoying inconvenience that I'm weirdly nostalgic for. xD Am I crazy?
I'm 30 and I'm not sure I ever had that baby "fever." I've thought about it and maybe down the road but not today.. that being said, why isn't choosing to not have children more socially acceptable? I'm always asked if I have kids or when I'm going to. I really enjoy my sleep, why just because I have a vagina, am I supposed to be a child farm? At work it's almost frustrating not having kids. I usually am asked to work holidays, night shifts and the odd shifts because all my other co-workers have children. So because I don't have kids, my life and time is less valuable?
I feel like the ones who dont wish to have children are super smart and have high self love. I myslef am not like that and i look at myself like im below those like you. People who dont have children are amazing.
I'm guessing that people are being encouraged to have babies so that a few big organizations can benefit:
1. Stores that sell stuff for children.
2. Governments that need more future taxpayers.
3. A military that needs more cannon fodder for the war machine.
+flamintaco0 I think a small factor, just a drop in the bucket, is that women have a smaller window for that opportunity than men. While birth defects do become more prevalent the older men get they still have the ability to have reproduce, basically until they die.
Now I don't think that makes it anyone's business when people chose to have kids (or not) and, really, I don't think that it's the common reason people push women to have kids but it is belief that tends to pop up at some point. Especially if someone's calling out the pusher-of-people-production.
Although really if that were people's main concern there'd be a stronger push for getting some eggs frozen. I believe frozen eggs remain viable for a pretty long time.
+flamintaco0 The machine needs more slaves and that's what women are for, right? (sarcasm)
Society should be built around human needs and limited by sustainability, not built around greed and limited by the labor force.
I'm totally in the midst of baby fever. I really really want to have a baby like yesterday but we are trying to be responsible and get a little more financially stable first, but seriously it doesn't help that it seems like everyone on my Facebook is either pregnant or has just had a baby :(
+Merelf You are definitely not alone in that feeling! And I think waiting until you are more financially stable is a great choice. My thinking is that I want to enjoy being a parent and I want my child and my family to have a stable future. I think it's all about the life you envision for yourself, if you aren't at the point where you would be able to have that life yet it totally makes sense to wait!
I think it is. But I have always loved being with kids and babies... I had 2 boys and thinking the family was over and then I got baby fever... And had a third. My kids are 13, 11 and 5... And I had another fever after but my age made me change my mind, just too hard on the body, no matter the fever.
I just had this conversation with my coworkers (who are all female and >30 years of age). They all said just wait a few years and you'll have the urge... I seriously doubt that though. That is an 18 year (minimum) job with no breaks ever, no thanks!
+btdtpro I think I misread your comment about Elon Musk. Yeah, that guy might as well as reproduce a surplus and would have takers. Indeed, eugenics for the poor is inhumane and stupid. Poverty can maketh the man after all.
+owenhunt What's your statement? You think eugenics isn't alive and well in America? Look it up, Hitler learned from us or I guess I should say the US. Do a little research. Right after the last cases of compulsory sterilization were stopped in America, what popped up about four years later? Planned Parenthood, the re-marketed eugenics. People get mad when we force humans not to procreate, well then what if we're pro their choice to limit their own procreation. Who, by far, gets the most abortions? Low income people, 79% non-white.
and like I said in my last comment, I'm not for eugenics, I just wish there wasn't a movement within the intellectual community to not procreate. If anything, genius billionaires like Elon Musk should have tons of kids, they have both the funds, genetics and time to raise children that could do a lot for the world.
+btdtpro +Ireallyreally Hategoogle Yeah, I saw that movie :) and that's partly where I got the thought from. Smart people are the ones that should procreate, but the dumb ones are doing enough procreating for everyone (plus more) so the smart people don't bother. it's quite a situation. Hope it doesn't turn out like the movie...